Some of you will marry, out of those that marry over half of you will be confronted with divorce, maybe you forgot to take the thrash out, maybe she stopped having sex and you had an affair because of it, maybe she found something new and exciting, whatever the reason you can be pretty sure it will be your fault.
You will have to leave your house pay child support and will be ordered to provide her "with the lifestyle she got accostumed to during marrige", while yours can hit happily rock bottom, while she takes your kids to their new daddy/daddies (or not). in other words unless you have one of the few high paying jobs you will be p!ss poor and lonely.
Have you come to termes to accept that divorce is just something minor that happens in life now and then, like catching a cold, or is it a big turn off for you, so big that you frown at the thought of getting married ?
2007-01-24 01:28:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
You see Farien the point is it isnt "just me" or just the wife beaters or just the cheaters who get dragged down to divorce court, it is over one of 2 married men more like 55 out of 100. It might surprise you but I have not been "burned" Ive seen millions of men before me getting burned and I dont cut myself eithier to find out how much it hurts, I just believe it does.
2007-01-24 08:03:46 · update #1
You shouldn't get married until after your testicles descend.
2007-01-24 01:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋
it's not always men that get burned. here's a little story:
a woman gets knocked up by her boyfriend when she is 15, he 17. they decide to marry. the woman stays home and takes care of the children and the home. they don't have much, just enough to be comfortable. the woman only works when the man is hurt or laid off from his job. any money she gets she puts into his retirement account. they build a family and a house together, and are together 30 years. the man goes out and gets a girlfriend, carrying on a secret relationship for 2 years. the wife finds out, demands he stop. he leaves instead. she has no income. he 'allows' her to live in the house she designed and tended for over a decade. she tries to get him to come back. he won't, even though the girlfriend dumped him. he has a high paying job, good insurance, retirement. the wife has the house, and the taxes are due, and she has no job skills so has to get a minimum wage job. she is depressed, has to see a doctor, get on paxil, but she has to stop cuz she can't afford it.
finally the divorce is final, the judge says the man only has to pay $200 /month and nothing else. the house is about to be taken and the woman still has only a minimum wage job. she has no insurance and a history of cancer. she has no retirement. she has no savings (oh yeah, did i mention he drained the bank accounts when he left?). she's nearly 50 years old.
2007-01-24 19:26:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Divorce is seldom any one person's fault. It's usually the fault of both people, intentional or not. A lot of divorces could be headed off before people get married really. People get married for all the wrong reasons. People develop emotional and s*exual relationships with people before they REALLY get to know them and that causes an emotional bond, which is a horrible and incredibly shaky foundation to start with. So most people are blinded by lust and have un-real expectations of marriage. That's why the majority of people who live together before marriage get divorced, because marriage IS different than casually living together and marriage is a deeper level of committment and one or both people expect it to remain the same, but it doesn't. So real life comes along and it gets a bit tough and they leave, because it's actual work and they don't want that, it was better when they just lived together. Love is a decision and an action, not so much of an emotion. It's about getting to know the person LONG before you invest yourself romantically much less emotionally and making and educated decision about that person and how they handle life situations, their values and character. But people don't do that now adays. It's "ooh.. you are cute and sweet" and on the 3rd date they are screwing. People just get dumb when it comes to relationships.
2007-01-28 00:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by tinagoomba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is serious. It's the second step of marriage. I think it's only a matter of time before someone creates a "partnership contract". A legally binding form that states two people will be together for 5 years with the option to renew. Like sports contracts. It makes more sense than forever, that's for sure.
2007-01-24 12:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by Tim 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been divorced since 1989 and will never marry again. There is no reason to invite trouble into your life.
Marriage is a win/win for women but a lose/lose for men.
Anything a wife can do can be readily and more cheaply hired done except one thing: nagging.
Why would any thinking man get married? He wouldn't.
Sex? Many women are looking for no-strings sex.
Housework? Taking care of housework is not a scientific project. It's simple and quickly done.
Companionship? Develop friendships with men and women without inviting them to live in,and eventually take, your home.
Children? Find a woman with children and give her approximately 25% of your income in exchange for a few days per month to visit the children.
2007-01-24 10:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Phil #3 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Dear Friend,
What do you mean my Married Life huh? Just for Sex certainly not. Married Life is a life with Give and Take policy. If not married life is HELL.
Life without Wife is Waste to Live. Think Positve and do Positive to your mate. The result will be Positively Your's.
(My Policy)
Cheers!
VP
2007-01-24 10:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by V P 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Your 'question' (actually, your speech) is filled with assumptions and is clearly based on your own experience which has left you bitter and angry.
Do many marriages result in divorce? Sure. People get married for the wrong reasons.
Are men the only ones who are blamed? Not at all.
Are men the only ones who bear the brunt of financial compensation? Not at all.
Does divorce occur because the man 'forgot to take the trash out'? Only to you.
2007-01-24 15:05:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋
Hint? I was divorced in `86. Haven't been married, since then.
2007-01-24 10:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by Goggles 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Never marry.
Get your GF to move across the hall (street) from you, and go over to her place until she is bitchy (inevitable), then retreat to your place.
Have kids with a child-raising contract.
It is the only way to keep a woman honest.
2007-01-24 17:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Who the hell said you have to get married? Several of my friends have stayed in a marriage too long so, they didn't have to pay support. That's pathetic. (Tat L Do) it sounds like your testicles have descended?
2007-01-24 10:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by sowhat 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
This is the reason for the increasing popularity of pre-nuptial agreements...
2007-01-24 12:18:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋