I'm bi.I went back home this summer and met her @ a party.It was a very strong attraction.We talked daily.We wanted to see if there was anything to what we felt when I was there so,she is now living here w/ me for 6mos.Its like we thought it would be.We get along great! We are now in love and making plans for her to come back after a month home.I have an issue w/ her.The girlfriend back home:She says she will cause a scene when she breakes up w/ her.She may even tell people that she is a Lesbian,which will put her life in danger.That's one of the reasons I want her to live here.Jamaica (though I love my country) is a very homophobic country.The girlfriend seems a little crazy,she has broken cellphones & trashed her apartment(they don't live together).I want her & I know I'm wrong for being w/someone elses woman.The feelings we feel are so strong & we're good together.We are realistic though.I don't have my head on some cloud.I'm grown.I prepared for ya'll to let me have it.So I won't b
2007-01-24 01:22:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You said that you are grown, so you need to act like an adult and do one of 2 things. Let her go & be done with the drama that comes along with being the "Other" woman. I've been there done that....its not fun. Its not a good place to stay in for long. Im sure you could meet someone else and have a relationship where you are the only one in her eyes, heart and life. OR.....you can go forward with the relationship and make it final by moving her in with you and making your relationship soild. But she has to come clean to the woman she's with now & deal with any consequences that she may have until she can get out!!! If you 2 are really in love, then you need to make this happen as soon as possible. Just be careful. I hope she isnt stringing you along only to never break up with her girlfriend & keep you waiting on the side. Ever heard of having your cake AND ice cream too.....
2007-01-24 02:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you have to go through this. . . I was kinda in this situation. I fell for a girl that was in a relationship, we both like each other but she just cant leave her girl, I know she cares alot about the chic and didnt want to take her away from that. I just left it alone, but there aint a day that goes by that I aint thinking about her. we still talk but its hard. Its really going to be up to the girl. I dont think its going to work between you two if she stays in the relationship with her girlfriend. And if shes afraid of getting out of the relationship with her because of what she might do. then she just needs to get out of that situation all together. Like move some where, where the chic dont know where she is..... I am sure some one will send you a message saying you are wrong or what ever, but its not all you, i mean she knew she had some one when ya'll met and she could have easily said no. . Good luck with this one. . .
2007-01-24 09:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by sweet_treat101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not want you to spend the rest of your life being the other woman.
But i think that if you think it is going to work out for you then go ahead. Just make sure you girl has a place to live premanently because she really may not be able to go back home.
I wonder to is she okay with you being bi sexual. Would you want to be with her forever or would you crave the touch of a man at some point in time and leave her. Or is she bi too.
She could always tell the girl she is leaving her for a man. Sometimes lying is the safest way to go.
I wish you all the joy and happiness in the world. And i hope that things wrk out for you.
Big up to you my Caribbean sister. (I am a Trini.)
2007-01-24 09:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider polyamory.
Obviously your new friend has the capacity to love more than one person. This isn't a bad thing, just not something accepted by most of society.
The other girlfriend seems to have some serious insecurity issues, from the sounds of it.
Agreed that Jamaica is very gay/lesbian hostile. I won't vacation there just on principle.
2007-01-24 09:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you are 100% wrong for attempting a relationship with someone involved. You need to show yourself more respect.
2007-01-24 09:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
awesome....threesome yes!
2007-01-24 09:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by Lic. York 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋