Say you and your girl friend got together in December, and in January you found out that she MIGHT be 3 months pregnant. She just found out, and told you because she didnt want to hide it from you. Would you be mad at her? And why? If it happened before you got together, why would you be mad?
2007-01-24 01:07:39 · 15 answers · asked by sweet_treat101 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Its in here because I am a female. . . (I'm les. . .)
2007-01-24 01:20:40 · update #1
She wasnt the one that was pregnant, I was the one that was possibly pregnant, its one of those, if you were in my situation questions. I wouldnt get mad, she got mad....I just dont understand why?
2007-01-24 01:28:15 · update #2
I am not a bisexual. I have just dated all men before I got with her. And now that I am with her, I am with only her. I dont date men anymore. . .
2007-01-24 01:39:48 · update #3
She knew I was with men previous to her...
2007-01-24 02:17:45 · update #4
Number one I think that most of the people who have answered your question need to read it again and then change their answers...people are dumb and illiterate nowdays. I think that since she wasn't with you at the time that it may or may not have happened, I'd not waste my energy being mad about it. If she is pregnant, CONGRATS to her and you and if she's not, :(.. Remember, She didn't HAVE to tell you so, don't use it against her. GOOD LUCK AND HAVE A GREAT DAY!
2007-01-24 01:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends upon how she feels about starting a family. I don't want children, period. My husband and I agreed before we got married that there would be no children and if I got pregnant I would get an abortion. There would be no discussion, and if he had an issue with it then we would get divorced. So, if I was involved with someone and loved her and found out she was pregnant, and if she didn't want to have an abortion, then that would mean the relationship was over. I would be mad because it would hurt to lose someone I cared about, but this is an issue that's not negotiable. I'd also feel like I'd wasted my time and love on a relationship that was doomed. And if I wasn't even warned up front that there was a possibility of this happening I'd feel like I'd been led on and toyed with, which would make me angry.
2007-01-24 10:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by Rose D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt be mad at all. Yes it puts a damper on the situation and know there are so many other things to consider. But being mad over something like that I think is silly since it happened before you two were together. She has no right to be mad!
2007-01-24 11:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by Erin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mad at the situation yes. Mad at you for telling her no. You see the relationship changes when you have children. Maybe she didn't see herself settling into a family so soon or even at all. I don't know how you presented yourself to her when you first got together. Did she know you had been involved with a guy before you all met or did you not tell her how recent it had been? So I can understand her being upset with how this changes yours and her relationship but I can't understand her being upset with you. It is just sometimes difficult to tell the difference.
2007-01-24 09:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by J J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she was just shocked at the news, i don't think she's mad at you specifically. could be she got her hopes up about who she thought you were and started dreaming about what type of future she wanted with you.. obviously, pregnancy from a past relationship never figured into her fantasy..
but you didn't do anything wrong. it was great that you were honest with her. sometimes people freak out when they hear about their partner's past. i know i get intimitated because i have so little experience in dating and even less in sexual situations..
confirm if you can whether you really are pregnant, and then you can take things from there. if she doesn't want to date you because of a pregnancy, then that is sad, but sometimes that's life.. good luck!
2007-01-24 09:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess I would probably be mad depending on how the pregnancy came about in the first place. I wouldn't want to date a bisexual.
2007-01-24 09:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by Scully 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. While I think somethings about ones past need to be discussed (for health reasons) I would not be angry for the other person's past. NOW, if she simply cannot deal with it I understnad her point - some people simply do not like or want children. However, I would never condone anger!
2007-01-24 09:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a female! But I think that he shouldn't be mad with you, as it happened before him! But try to get in his place! He is in relationship with you for two months only and he finds out something like this! It is very natural to get mad! This thing makes him jealous and it reminds him that there was someone before him lying in the bed with you!
2007-01-24 09:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by Roubini 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, why would you considering the time frame suggest she became pregnant before you got together? Would you enjoy having to justify everything you've done in your past to her?
2007-01-24 09:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well maybe but i would tak to her about it and make sure she tell the truth and if everything become fine with the pregnant and we both can be happy together looking after the baby!! that what you should do!
2007-01-24 09:27:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋