if your spouse made 100K plus would you consider staying home if he/she wanted you to, or would you rather not

Answer 1

Stay home. No reason for someone else to raise my children when we have that much money rolling in. Not only that, taking care of a home can be a full time job if you're not lazy about it. There is always soemthing to be scrubbed or organized - and these things just can't always get done when you have to work.

I'd also like to note that I feel really sorry for people in unequal marriages. For instance, those who say you'd be "depending" on your spouse... Isn't the whole point of marriage that you share everything?? So essentially, the working spouse's money is yours as much as it is theirs. My husband and I have always seen it this way, no matter who made more money. I would never see me "buying a magazine", if I didn't work, as depending on "hand outs" from my husband. That's just silly.

Answer 2

I would stay home or take the time to do something Iike finishing my education. I'm in that situation now, except my husband isn't making 100k. We moved and I've not worked since August; I want to work now but recently slipped on some ice and broke my ankle. Before we moved, my husband quit a job he hated. We were preparing to move so he didn't find another job and we prepared to move. He was off for six months.

Neither one of us had a problem with one staying home while the other worked. It's all about trust and communication for us.

I am a little anxious to start working again because I enjoy the challenge of it. If my husband had it his way, he'd never work again!

Answer 3

Sure I would and enjoy life and have children and be able to give them the full attention like they really need. There is nothing wrong with it as long as he/she does not become a lazy couch potato. Staying home is a job especially with children. You have to clean and cook just about everyday. Some days even laundry not to mention errands that would have to be ran because it is more convenient for the one who does not work. 100K is good money and it is not like it would be a big burden because unless he/she can match that salary or atleast come close then that money is only play money anyway. And if the partner who makes the money really loves the other then there should be no problem because in marriage it is one not two.

Answer 4

I would work because I don't want to become dependent on anyone. If something happened to where I had to take care of myself, I'd be in trouble. Be independent and work and save that money for yourself because you don't want anybody thinking that they have control over you or what you can and can't spend. You should see that movie "Diary of a Mad Black Woman" - she never worked and he cheated and put her out and she had nothing. . .she had to start from scratch. He put the other fleuzy's name on his accounts and she took everything he had.

Life is not about being dependent it is about being independent and being your own person and having your own opinions and making your own decisions. I know that person probably loves you (if you are considering this) but even if it is working part time or selling MK/Avon anything. . . it's better than just sitting at home, shopping, and all that stuff. I know it sounds like a treat but you should always prepare for the best AND the worst. You are responsible for your own happiness and not someone else. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 5

In my sittuation, I have to children one 4 and one 2 I'm not getting a full time job or starting college until they are both in school so even if he wanted me to have a full time job while he was making 100K I wouldn't, I want to raise my kids. I do have a part time job though.

Answer 6

You have to ask yourself if you would be happy staying home every day, relying on your spouse for money even a small amount for a magazine.
Then you have to consider the gap you would have in your c.v and what your spouse expects you to do; will all the housework be yours to do, will you have to survive on his handouts or will you have access to money and will you be happy having days when the only person you get to speak to is your spouse.
Staying home isn't all fun & games it can be lonely, extremely boring and can make you totally dependent on your spouse for everything

Answer 7

i pray that he wont suggest.100k is money but not worth hanging in for.he can assist by getting a shop for me if he is not confortable with me going far or working for anybody.both of us should reason together.true,we dont pray for evil,but nobody knows what will happen.so what if he is not there tomorrow,what will happen to i and my children.pls i hope to work.we are made to be industrious,to assist in the family no mather how little.

Answer 8

I would rahter work. It's always good to have your own income. It makes you feel better, you can help out....even if he doesn't want you too. I stay home, with my son...per my husbands choice, and I wish I would have went back to work sometimes. My relationship doesn't seem fair, he thinks he is absolutly great and i'm not equal, all because he works.

Answer 9

Sadly to say, but my job is my savior alot of days. I need to interact with people on a daily basis, or I get a little depressed. I would consider a part time job if you need to get out. Best of both worlds.

Answer 10

I would consider it, but it changes the balance of power in a relationship too much for it to be comfortable. I think that I would continue to earn my own money anyway, though I would put my job on the back burner, behind other priorities.