i need other peoples input on this im not sure if it will should we do it everynight or will it just bring up bad thoughts
2007-01-24 00:49:12 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you will get over it eventually, just screw her like a whore for awhile
2007-01-24 00:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by bad b 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Your marriage was in trouble LONG before she ever betrayed you. Sex with your wife is an act of forgiveness. Unfortunately, only time will help you cope with the infidelity. I don't think that you will ever come to accept it. Why should you? However, if she has taken every step to eliminate any and all contact with the other person and is trying to rebuild a relationship with you then for both of your sakes ; you have got to not allow your mind to drift there or to bring it up and beat her with it everytime you argue. Have sex with her as much as you both are amenable to. And never ask her specifics or you will definitely drive yourself insane with jealousy. You need to work on the friendship. Somewhere along the lines you stopped talking with each other and liking one another. Life can do that sometimes to a couple but it doesn't have to be fatal if you can both forgive each other for whatever slights have led to this point. If it is at all possible try relocating and starting fresh in a place that isn't filled with the bad memories that led to that point.
2007-01-24 09:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no i think therapy is the only thing that will help you there ,I dont know how you have sex with the cheater or how often you do is going to change your situation at all i mean do you want to have sex with her or are you thinking that will fix the problem usually there is more behind cheaters than just the need for sex usuallythere is a deeper issue ,do what feels good to you but be sure and use protection you would hate for her next gift to you to be an STD..
2007-01-24 08:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No; the affair has emotional affects as well. You need to understand what caused her to cheat to begin with. Plus, it sounds more like you're trying to "sex" her back into your marriage and restore your desirability to her for your own benefit. Couples counseling would be a better option. Having a bunch of sex won't answer the question of why she cheated to begin with.
Also both of you should be tested for STDs. You don't know the health and sexual history of the man she slept with.
2007-01-24 08:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No not at all. You can't hide your emotional feelings and your thoughts behind physical feelings. The first step in getting past it should be a conversation that involves acceptance, forgiveness, and rebuilding trust. Sex is just a temporary fix to your physical being and not your emotional.
There have been plenty of times that my husband and I have had sex when we were mad at each other. When we were done - I was still mad. There has to be more than that to solve your problems. Good luck.
2007-01-24 08:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Most likely, it will bother you for a long time, no matter whether you sleep with her every 5 minutes or once every month. The issue is deeper than just her cheating. Remember, when girls cheat, they cheat for emotional reasons where as guys just cheat just for physical needs. Good luck
2007-01-24 08:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well if it works for you but what you should do is take her out first to dinner or somewhere special and then make love to her romantically and then forget about it because there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, we all are human we make mistakes and don't let that problem mess up your marriage what you need to do is spend time with her more often and give her attention but don't kiss her a** because if you do she gonna do what she wants to do but you have to make her understand that you don't want her to cheat
2007-01-24 09:26:53 · answer #7 · answered by sexsired 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No having sex will not get you past the cheating.You are only have sex. Talking to each other will get you past the cheating and even than maybe not.
2007-01-24 09:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by escapewombat2006 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, because everytime you have sex with her you will wonder if you are just as good as the other guy or guys she is sleeping with. She is not being loyal to you, and she is obviously not satisfied with you if she is cheating on you. You should consider marrige counseling or divorce
2007-01-24 08:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by Katie 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What you SHOULD do is wait for a while and have her get tested for any STDs, as well as yourself. Then if she and yourself come up clean then and only then should you consider sleeping with her. But you have to ask yourself if you can get past the thoughts of her sleeping with another man.
2007-01-24 08:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by teashy 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Good question. Sorry this is happening to you. I tried it once with a gf who cheated on me, and we did it ok for a few weeks, but the full impact of what she did finally came up and we ended up breaking up.
2007-01-24 08:53:49 · answer #11 · answered by All hat 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋