Why do working mothers despise stay at home moms for taking a few years off to raise baby?.?

Answer 1

I am a working mom. I don't despise stay-at-home mothers, nor am I jealous of them.

Every family needs to choose the life that works best for them.

I think the conflict comes because some (not all) stay-at-home mothers assume that working mothers are not good moms. Others assume that a working mother would stay home if she could, or that a stay-at-home mother provides better care than a working mother.

I do resent that assumption. I am a wonderful mother to my daughter, and I have rearranged my schedule and my life to provide the best possible care for her. I know that working is the right decision for me, my hubby, and my daughter, and I'm tired of people insisting that I am depriving her of needed attention/love.

(And YES, I would work even if we didn't need the money - intellectual stimulation is very important to me, and I don't feel that I would be a good influence on her if I were stuck at home all day.)

Answer 2

Not all working moms despise stay at home moms... I wish that I could stay at home with my daughter and I think that you guys are doing a very good thing for your children. I can understand why some people are angry because it is really hard to take your baby to daycare... I struggle with it every time I have to do it which is why I took a job where I have to work less so that I still make the money I need to live but have more time at home. The women that you are thinking of may be mad at the situation and inadvertenly direct toward stay at home moms. I wouldn't take it personal. Just try to put yourself in their shoes and brush it off.

Answer 3

I think despise is very harsh, as the other ladies have said , yes there are some of us who work outside the home because we have to and would love to stay at home and raise our children, but there are more women like myself who love that since of independence working, or going back to school or doing both and not to say that our children play the back burner to our careers or obtaining an education because everything we do in the end always benefits our kids. I just think both sides (stay at home moms and working mothers ) need to give the other credit because it is a lot of hard work to do both. However I must say if did dislike something it would be the fact that " Some" stay at home moms never pursue getting a degree, volunteer work or joining a women's' group - something to stimulate your brain besides cooking, cleaning and watching the kids.

Answer 4

I don't despise stay at home mothers at all. I give them a lot fo credit. Personally, it is not an option for me. I have to work. If I had a choice, I would stay at home most of the time and work a few nights a week, or days, just to have some time out of the house. Not everyone is the same. I think it is wonderful for mothers to be able to stay at home with their kids, and I would never put them down for doing so.

Answer 5

I don't despise stay at home mothers and I'm a working mom. I wish I could stay at home for a couple years with my daughter though, but I have to work while my husband's in school to finish his graduate degree.

Just remember that some people think that everyone should do things the way that they do it - its unfair and its not the right way to think. Everybody has different needs, desires, wants and influences and should be treated as individuals and respected for their decisions as long as they don't harm others.

Answer 6

When I worked I did not despise the stay at home mom. I never dreamed I could do it. Figured I'd get bored. My whole life I grew up with a mother who worked {as a police officer} and a father that worked {very high powered job so he was never there infact i have very few memories of him as a child} and there were times I wanted my mom there but they both worked outside of the home not because they had to but because they got bored at home of the same "routine". I grew up and as expected of me went to college, got my Masters and went to work. I had my first child shortly after I was married and went back to work soon marriage ended {thank god} and I was a single mom. For 12 yrs I worked 12 hr days 5 days a week knowing my daughter was in the hands of another person that would be molding her mind. It wasnt until she was about 8 or 9 that I realized how big of an impact her nanny was having on her {though it was a good impact} mostly because I closed my eyes to it since I was working so hard to provide the lifestyle we deserved. I had my second child 8 months ago and due to Dr's orders stopped working when i was 13 weeks pregnant. I now realize just how much I missed with my daughter. I missed her first steps, her first words, the first time she fed herself, and the one that now breaks my heart her first smile. I am once again married and we do not have any financial issues and looking back I should have stayed with my daughter and thinking I'd get bored was just selfish on my part. Sure there are days I get bored being home w my son, every parent does but just to see how much he changes almost on a daily basis makes it worth it.

Answer 7

I think despise is a rather harsh word... There may be a slight hint of jealousy because their life style requires them to work.... but i don't think any working mother would despise another woman just because she stays home and takes care of their child. And also, alot of stay at home moms wish they did have a job to get them out of the house.... or the extra pay check.. it's a two-way street. What it comes down to is that's the way, working or not, you have decided to raise your child........ and no one should be jealous or despise anyone because of it.

Answer 8

Because MOST stay at home moms look down upon the moms who HAVE to work. MOST stay at home moms think that the moms that have to go right back to work are selfish and are not raising there kids right. I think that any mom would want to stay home with there kids all day and live off there husbands income if they could. But in this day and age its all most imposable. I will admit that I do get jealous of the moms that CAN stay home and care to there little ones all day. They are very lucky that they can do that. I have a 3 month old and I know how hard it can be to raise kids and take care of little one, but what gets me most about stay at home moms its a lot of them complain that its a full time job and its such hard work and blahh blahh. Well I work full tI'me then go home and im a full time mom. I cant pass the buck off to someone Else. Its 11pm before I even think about shut eye and I'm up at 6am. So yes being a mom is hard work, but working and being a mom is even harder work! The stay at home moms really don't know how good they have it!

Answer 9

I am a working mom and I don't despise stay at home moms but I am jealous of them. I wish so badly that I could stay home with my son until he is ready to go to school but I just can't financially.

Answer 10

The key is to remember that every family, and every mother, is different. I stayed at home only 6 months with my first and went back part time. Although it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do, ultimately it was the right decision. I am now expecting my 2nd baby and will be home about 9 months with him before again going back PT. I have lots of friends in different situations, varying from home-businesses to full-time work to sahm-ing, and it all seems to work for them individually. For me, I love the time I have with my son, and I am watching him thrive in his nursery, while I get the chance to develop my career too.