Why or why not? I have been looking at alot of different things lately and it seems like some people are glad to be married but don't really care about the vows they took. why not?
2007-01-24 00:12:22 · 13 answers · asked by Lindser 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah the other guy may be right that not everyone will be honest fully if they take vows seriously or not. I think it all comes down to if you believe in more than just vows. Vows are repititious words usually done for traditional purposes. I think it is more than I will love you through sickness and health and all that other stuff they make ya say at the church. I believe what is more important than vows, is the marriage itself. Are you willing to work through each others weaknesses, each others bad habits, see through each others faults and still have a love that is unconditional. A thing that is hard for most of us. Unconditional that is. I think it doesn't come down to believing in vows alone, but do you know the person enough you want to marry to accept the entire package for all it is worth. The weakness with the strengths, the faults with good points. Can your strengths help with their weaknesses, can theirs help you with yours. Are you an understanding person, patient person, committed. Marriage is about team work. You will both have to work at it, and go in with the same goal. Dedication and commitment. Not cause you said it in the church, but cause it was in your heart to begin with. People say the vows, they marry, but what is in the heart? The heart is where your marriage lies, and whatever it means to you inside, is what you will put in or not. I been married 10yrs but with the same person 15. It hasn't always been easy, but I am not willing to destroy my marriage for someone else which could lead to different difficulties and trials. Is he/she worth giving your entire life to, If not, then avoid marriage, unless you want to make it a lifetime partnership. Goodluck
2007-01-24 00:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vows eh? I suppose there are vows aren't there? I'm not married 'just living together' right now, so I don't know what these vows are maybe I'll have to look that up before my partner and I get married, but as for commitment, yes we take it seriously.
2007-01-24 00:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, otherwise I wouldn't say them. The deal breaker would have to be a long, ongoing affair, he became abusive or something serious like he purposely killed or raped someone. The whole concept of marriage and these vows are man-made. I like the idea of them though, so that's why it would have to be something drastic. Most people that get married don't even believe in God and don't care, but that doesn't mean they shouldn't want to try to keep the vows if it's something that they value.. Also, I'm not going to stay with someone if I live in misery or fear for my life everyday.
2016-05-24 03:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I take my vows seriously. Marriage is about comprimise. Give and take. There are people who get married for all the wrong reasons. I truly wanted to take the final step in our relationship. Now this who I have chosen to live with for the rest of my life.
2007-01-24 05:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by J*A*K*C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we take our vows seriously but I think we don't break the rules more out of respect and honor and love for each other than for what we said on our wedding day. I mean if you love someone truly then you try your best to treat them the best you can and you don't do things to shatter their trust and lose their love for you. i feel lucky to be married to the man I have but if we were not married I would still not want to hurt him because I love him and want to be with him and only him. does that make any sense? LOL
2007-01-24 00:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by donnyschick33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, come on. Do you honestly believe that anyone is going to come in here and say, "No, I don't take my vows seriously at all." Even the people who don't take their vows seriously don't have the insight to realize they are not taking them seriously.
And, in your question, it should be "If you're married," not "If your married," because "you're" is a contraction of "you are".
2007-01-24 00:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe when you are married it's for better or worse, right or wrong, bad or good.
My 1st marriage I was mentally, physically abused, he cheated on me (22 times that I know of) but I heard the same thing all the time. He would cry and beg me, tell me that it would never happen again and again. I tried and tried, I believe I gave 100%. After 13 years, I couldn't take anymore.
Now I'm married to a man for 11 years, dated for 2 and together for 13 and he believes the same as I. Marriage is forever.
2007-01-24 00:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by sbratt2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Examples would be nice.
Yes, I take them seriously, but I also maintain that our relationship would be no different if we were just living together. The license, vows and rings are only things; symbols. WE are the relationship.
2007-01-24 00:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage today is nothing more than an unholy matrimony of covenience. who would take a marriage vow seriously anymore ?
2007-01-24 00:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have my vows serious..everyday i live in better or worse.. i deal with him when he is awful and when he is good.. i am not saying it is easy but yes i have taken them serious
2007-01-24 00:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋