2007-01-24 00:04:59 · 24 answers · asked by lil'lee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can both start by trying to stay the heck away from each other!! That is not nice!
Unless, of course you are talking about your own hubby, then I suggest you go for it, yeah!!
2007-01-24 00:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by ~MIMI~ 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Do Nothing!! You are in love for the moment, you obviously married your husband because at some time you loved him too. Sometimes marriage sucks and then sometimes it is good. It's not easy and it's not always fun, but the married man that you are having this passion for now is new and exciting. Just wonder what it might be like some time down the road and you married him, sometimes it seems that everything that you loved about that exciting new person become the things that you just can't stand about them. The grass is always greener on the other side. Please think long and hard about this because I am living proof that these things could blow up in your face. In hindsight, I would have stayed with my first husband and never gone near the next one. It is something that haunts me to this day.
Good Luck and Please, Please be wise.
2007-01-24 08:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the married man you are in love with is your husband, no problem. If not, BIG problem. Make a choice. It is not fair to carry on a relationship that is outside another relationship. Forget about the sin and legal bunk. It is really way too time and energy consuming and a huge emotional drain. Ultimately, you or others will wind up being very very hurt.
2007-01-24 08:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even asking what you should do? Are you just looking for someone who's going to tell you what you want to hear?
You are both married!! Don't even go there! Go to couples counseling and work on fixing your marriage. If there is no way to fix your marriage, then get a divorce and move on. But don't go breaking another home. If he's not happy, that's his problem. You're walking into a royal mess and you're not thinking of all the other parties involved that will get hurt by your immature and selfish ways.
Even if you don't want to save your marriage, you should get into counseling for you. Good luck!
2007-01-24 08:16:24 · answer #4 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing, if your not happy with your marriage then end it, but, leave the object of your affection's marriage out of it. How would you like it if his wife had those feelings for your hubby and ruined your family??? You made a commitment to your husband you need to honor it, or give him some respect and end the marriage on a good note, not on an affair.
2007-01-24 08:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would do what you can to save your own marriages. When you made vows, you also loved your spouces. Love is about committment and dedication. You both made it to two different people and that is where your responsibility is. I know it probably isn't easy, cause feelings have a strange affect on people. Sometimes we don't expect it to happen and it does. But I truly recommend you, working on your own marriages. Is there Children involved in either? You both probably fell for each other for little things. Those little things are probably what you are lacking in your own marriages. But if your offering each other them, then part of the problem lies with you in your own marriages. It takes 2 to say I do and 2 to make it work. Please give your marriages and that "love" a chance. You both married cause you loved your partners, right? They deserve to have your heart, mind and soul. It isn't fair that they have to share it with a fantasy love with someone else. I know I would be crushed if I went to bed at night and my husbands thoughts weren't with me. You will have to work on it and try to improve the areas in your own marriages that your seeking from each other. Goodluck with your current families!
2007-01-24 08:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by Shannon 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That,s crazy right kind of exciting to and very wrong that sums up your situation so now what is your next move you know when we start something like this we never think about how it will turn out it,s not to late to be smart about it do what you know you have to do I know people who are doing what your doing and have been for 30 years do you want that type of life I don,t know what type of person you are so this may be what you want in your life so good luck
2007-01-24 08:41:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are you will never be anything more to him than a fling, no matter what he says 9 times out of 10 the wife finds out and hubby stays HOME.
2007-01-24 09:12:38 · answer #8 · answered by ladyluc39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorces happen- if the love between you is real, go with it because life is too short to live with someone you don't love. I have been in a similar situation before and believe it is best to be decisive if you are really compatible with the one you love. Best of luck- S
2007-01-24 08:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by I.M. Puffin' Stuff~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Repent and turn from your adultress affair.
It is evident that you are seeking something from this man that you are missing in your own marriage. You must be committed to solving the issues in your marriage. Not only that, allow me to point out that if this man, in which you are having an affair with, knows you are married, that says alot about him as well.
My guess is, it is not the man you love, it is the fulfillment you love. Seek the Lord.
2007-01-24 08:11:35 · answer #10 · answered by LisaLou 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Suck it up. You made a lifetime commitment to the man you married. Remember the reasons why you chose him. Rekindle your romance. Go home and make love to your husband.
2007-01-24 08:10:00 · answer #11 · answered by Jazz Lady 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋