My husband passed away, less than a month ago, and I'm sometimes wondering how to find a purpose in life anymore. I'm sure that this must be part of the grieving process...but it's tough to go thru. I'm a Christian, and I know I'll see him again.
I have had so much support from family, friends and neighbors, and I appreciate it all very much and it helps. They call, invite me out, and ask if they can do anything to help. It really brings out the wonderful side in people.
If you have been thru the loss of a loved one, how have you coped with the pain, in your day to day life? What helps? How did you start making a life for yourself?
If you are a Christian, did your faith help you? ( It helps me alot; don't know what I'd do without it)
If you have suggestions on how to get thru each day, I'd love to know..Thanks.
2007-01-23 23:55:15 · 2 answers · asked by JoJoCieCie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's difficult. I am sorry for your loss and pain. I don't want to sound cliche but time will make it better. Your wounds are fresh and it will take time to heal; you need to cut yourself a break and allow yourself to grieve without feeling guilty about that. You are lucky to have people around you who support you; you need to lean on them when you have difficult moments (it helps).
Ultimately, your outlook on the situation and your attitude towards your future can make a big difference on how you get through each day and, eventually, when you begin to start living again. If you accept death as a part of living, each of us will pass on either prematurely or we will have the fortune to live a long life, it may make it easier for you to accept that this happened. Being human, with our limitations, its so difficult to realize what G-d's plan is; we need to accept the events which happen that are beyond our control. We need to cherish the moments we have with loved ones; the memories of being with them and sharing part of our lives will always remain dear. Your husband will always be alive in your memories. Without even knowing your husband, I can tell you that he would want you to go on, to live a full and happy life. I know this because when you truly love someone, you want them to be happy and satisfied, even if it means that you are not together.
Try to make a point in each day to make a mark of the things which bring you joy, the people, sights, and events that you appreciate and makes you feel good. Doing this will help you get through the days to come. There is so much to live for. I wish you well.
2007-01-24 09:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by Lucid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I am so very sorry for your lose.
I lost my brother bout ten years ago. He was only 49 when he died. It bothered me more than I thought it would. What I did was I had a run (motorcycles) for him. I ride and as such I have many friends/acquaintances who ride. I put together a run for him and made two stops on this run. One being a a local park that he enjoyed being at, and the second being at a local beach that he enjoyed. I spread some of his ashes at both location. I had his widow with me and she helped spread some of his ashes. I also had his sons with me as well. Believe it or not this brought me the closer that I think you are looking for. I know this may not be for you unless you are a biker type lady. But this is just a thought and might help you in deciding how you can bring closer. Talking with your family and friends does help. I wish you all the best and again I am sorry.
2007-01-24 00:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋