I AM HAVING PROBLEMS, I SWEAR AT MY MUM AND SOMETIMES GET TO A POINT WHERE I EXPLODE AND HIT HER. I AM 21 AND LIVE AT HOME, AND STUDY AT UNI. MY DAD IS KINDA LIKE THAT HE SWEARS AND WAS BROUGHT UP IN A LOW CLASS ENVOINRMENT BUT MY MUM WAS BROUGHT UP IN A HIGH CLASS ENVOIRNMENT. SHE TELLS ME SOMETHING LIKE BE A MAN AND STUFF AND IT GETS TO ME , SHE TELLS ME THINGS DOES NOT GIVE ME MY PRIVACY AND NEVER CAN SAY SORRY SHE IS STUBBORN BUT I DONT KNOW WHO THE PROBLEM IS. help please.
2007-01-23 23:31:33 · 6 answers · asked by GoodBoy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's not your fault.You swear at your mum because you are always hurt by her negative retorts.Your mum keeps on nagging about you without limit because she's been facing stressful moments with your dad.Although your mom comes from high class status and she loves your dad, but she's facing challenges from the outside world.The society usually judge a person by their social status, so your dad's probably not welcomed by them.That's why your mum's very upset although she truly loves your dad. So she keen on nagging to you.But actually she's trying to tell you all the problems she's facing because she has no one to talk to.
I know you didn't intend to swear at her.It's because just you are hurt from her words and you have tried to be a perfect boy in her heart.Your patience have gone to the breaking point,so sometimes you can't hold yourself any longer and quarrel with her.
Both you and your mum need understandings.It's a skill that Can be learned.But i know you can do it....take care.
2007-01-23 23:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're not a good boy, but take after your dad. I can't imagine swearing at or hitting my mom, let alone wanting to be like my dad (he was an alcoholic that was verbally abusive to all).
Here's the deal-mothers will always tell you what they think is best, it is part of their nature. It can make you feel like a kid instead of an adult, and all you will hear coming out of her mouth is nag,nag,nag, b*tch, b*tch, b*tch, gripe, gripe, gripe.
I was told that I could live at home as long as I wanted, as long as I was in school or paying rent, and that I may be grown, but I would have to live by their rules while at home (I moved out at 19 when I was at university).
It sounds like you feel bad about the situation, so just remember, you'll be out on your own soon enough.
By the way, there was no privacy at our house either-no knocking on the door or anything. It can drive you barking mad!
2007-01-23 23:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by tombollocks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds Like it's YOU!!!, Your 21 for Christs sake, Get a life and move out on your own. Then you'll get a taste for what your Mom and Dad are putting up with your selfishness
2007-01-24 01:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by nalla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you all need help, you are acting like your dad..your mum is taking it out on you because of how your dad is to her so you act just like him..you are a product of your parents..and you turn out just how they raise you..if you are brought up watching your parents behave that way then i am not supprised you are acting the same..you need to move out of that situation and get therapy..cause what if you start taking it out of girls you start dating..becoming a abusive person is starting the cycle all over again in that relationship...get help please!!! i am sure you still have some sense to know this is not right...
2007-01-23 23:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by dasu751520 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know kno what to tell u. i am not havin problems like that. just pray and talk to god.
2007-01-24 01:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do nt need to carry om reading
2007-01-23 23:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋