this is what happened.
i agreed with a friend that we would meet up last monday. i told him to let me know what time he'd like to meet up. monday came and he hasn't contacted me still so i decided to call him in the morning up to set a time. his mum answered and said that he'll be back home 11 o'clock that day (i think he went camping) and she'll tell him to call me when he gets back. 2 in the afternoon, no call from him still so i called his house again. i was told that he still wasn't home but that he'll be told to call me back when he's back.
now it's wednesday. i haven't heard anything from him. should i contact him to tell him that he made me wait last monday and that i'm annoyed with the fact that he hasn't even made an effort to contact me? i don't think the excuse "i forgot" is a proper excuse coz he was the one who said that monday is a good day for us to meet up. and if he did forget, then why didn't he call me back?
2007-01-23 23:09:46 · 20 answers · asked by lulu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No, don't "solicit" the apology, but do require it if the friendship is to continue. Friends don't do what this turkey did. Friendship is about mutual respect, mutual support, give and take, and honoring each other. He didn't call you back because he put his convienence ahead of his commitments. Not good, not good.
2007-01-23 23:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one would have liked to be in your shoes of course...
The worst thing is WAITING....
I am a Scorpio, and I hate to WAIT FOR SOMETHING which I know will be done Three hours from now, so how about it if I was given a DAY without any specific time where I am compelled to wait & wait & wait for NOTHING AT ALL...
He is quite mistaken, and you deserve one heck of an apology...
NEVER BEG FOR AN APOLOGY...
He ruined your day, your mood and left a SCAR in your heart thinking WHYS & WHENS & WHERES....with no feed back whatsoever...
The only EXCUSE ACCEPTABLE , and I would say God Forbids...That something wrong has happened to him PERSONALLY and not a friend of his or the like....
It only required him to simply push a button and tell u the circumstances he is going through....which requires almost ZERO EFFORT.
MEANWHILE, AND TO BE FAIR ENOUGH....
1) Wherever it was that camp he had gone to....Is there at all a way to reach out for a Tel. ot a Mob. ??
2) Did he come back home from Camping on Monday at all?
If not (and I hope you know better where that capm was) then what I assume could have happened; that he did not have Transportation and his friends didn't let go of him....and there was no way for him to contact u....which could be acceptable for a justification...
But if he turned out to have shown up at home on Monday late in the afternoon or early evening, then he is a BIG ***.....
He must explain, apologize and SEEK YOUR CONSCENT.
Make sure of all the facts first, then ACT accordingly MY DEAR...
2007-01-23 23:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by FOREVER AUTUMN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're taking it far too seriously - especially going so far as to ask a question on here about it. Missing lunch really isn't that important. Yes he let you down but it's not the end of the world. He's probably too scared to get in touch cos he knows you well enough to know you will be obssessing over it (you are) and will over-react. I'd take a step back and ring him. Be very casual and don't make a mountain out of a molehill.
2007-01-23 23:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by katieplatie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't chase after him on the phone. We ladies have to be a little hard to get. Read 'The Rules' by Ellen Fein. Seriously. Every woman should. He won't want you if you chase him. And he can't say he was waiting for you to call, because you left a message with his Mom. Let it go, and when you bump into him sometime, be like, "Oh, weren't we supposed to get together or something?" Waiting is the hardest.
2007-01-23 23:16:04 · answer #4 · answered by kfarq2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont think he is hiding anything i guess u've not head frm him cos he did not get ur message or probably becos he's not back home from camping u can find out. if after telling him u called and he does not offer any apology then u have cause to believe he's up to something.
All the best.
2007-01-24 01:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by Naughty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think dear u shouldn't call him anymore. first of all u don't know whether he was camping or he asked his mommy to tell that he was just not to talk with u cos he didn't want to meet with u on monday. and if he cared about u he wouldn't have forgotten. so i guess it is much better for u not to humiliate yourself more, u already annoyed his mommy by calling several times when she clearly told u he will call u back. if he wants to
2007-01-23 23:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he should give you an apology, its defeats the object if you ask for it. let him come to you on his own, but if he doesnt do it, then just forget about him.
he doesnt seem like a great friend if he wont answer his calls. perhaps u should play him at his own game and dnt answer his calls wen he phones u.
good luck, and try not to get hurt!!!!!
2007-01-23 23:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe the message wasnt passed on? i have had friends call the house for me and not called them back days later they call again and i had no idea they were trying to get intouch
2007-01-23 23:13:31 · answer #8 · answered by caz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u keep calling you will appear to be needy
but then if you dont call him he may neva call you
leave it till friday maybe then give him a call that way you can chew his head of for not calling for about a week and for forgettting about monday
plus you can chew his head of for not lettin you know about his change of plans
2007-01-23 23:17:46 · answer #9 · answered by sean c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't call back......let him contact you.....he owes you an apology, if he does not call then he's no friend and i suggest that you drop him
2007-01-24 01:09:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋