Homework problems/possible learnining disabilities?

Question

My son, age 12, has struggled through school his entire life. He is fidgety, probably slightly ADD, has a problem with organizational skills, etc. He is also small for his age and the constant subject of verbal mocking/abuse by a lot of his classmates because of his size.

I had a conference w/his teachers in November and was told he had started off poorly, but was making great progress. Last week, without any warning, he was put on a system of accountability because many times he forgets to turn in his homework. Now he has to carry around a folder and each of his teachers (total of 6) have to check it each day for homework, behavior, supplies, focus in class, etc. It is HIS responsibility to get it checked - if he does not get it checked on time by each teacher, he gets a U for Unsatisfactory for all the points above. When he accrues a certain number of U's he gets a detention.

Anyone have any thoughts/suggestions on this?

I should have mentioned, I also spend approx 2 hours each night helping him with his homework, always have. AND his scores in the standardized tests this year were lower than usual. In fact, he scored a 2 (out of 100) in language skills. Teacher says he probably just had a bad day. I disagree and feel he needs real help. My problem with the new system is he is the only one in his class doing this and now the teachers are constantly reprimanding him for everything - talking, looking around, etc. - in front of the class. He is the only one being reprimanded for these things. School has turned into a constant battle and I feel this new system is a form of justifiable abuse by the teachers and not at all productive. By the way, I have a conference that I requested tomorrow.

Answer 1

I know it;s tough,I am sure you are a working mother
but either myself or my wife,sit every single night
and help our kids do thier homework,we do not do it for them
nor do we give them the answers,we support and aid his
organizational skills,hand writing and math,french,and english
homework,as well as his other subjects and projects.
it takes up 2-3 hrs each night with each kid,the amount of homework they get is outragous,but it has helped out all our kids
in understanding and realizing the aspect of proper organization
to achieve maximum performance,they play soccer-hockey,football,and have practices and games all the time
we are run off our feet and out of our minds 7 days a week
but our oldest in now a straight A student in high school,our
second is passing grade 6 with flying colors( a huge improvment)
over the last two years,and our little one is struggling just like the other two did before him.it takes time perciverance,tears,yelling
headaches and years having no life as an adult,but it has been worth every single cleanex.

Answer 2

It all depends on if you taught him responsibilities at home. If the answer is no well that's why he's having these problems. It also could be that he's lazy and preoccupied. If all else fails get him take Him to the school counselor for a conference.