Im 19 and i think at the moment my hormones are all over, well ive been feeling like im gay, like i would dream about it or worry about if i am
The thing is i love women, im highly sexual with my gf, i get pleasure from her and when my male friend sleeps over he sleeps in my bed he seems a bit homosexual so i worry about sleeping near him so i always move away, i have nothing against gay people or anything but i feel like i am gay but i know im not
I want to know if, being gay means you find women un sexually attractive, would i be able to get pleasure with a girl if i was gay?
from a kid from 5 years old i can remember being sexually attracted to women, but now i have aslight doubt maybe its due to having panic attacks and worrying but i need to be soothed and you are my only help
2007-01-23 22:13:24 · 14 answers · asked by wannabeomg 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you are sexually attracted to women and not to men then you are not gay, you're straight. I don't know why you are afraid you might be gay if you feel no sexual attraction to men. Maybe you're really just afraid that someone might think you are gay or that you might "become" gay. Don't worry, homosexuality is not contagious, you're either gay or you're not and by what you said it seems pretty clear that you're straight.
2007-01-23 22:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by undir 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was growin up, a bit younger than you are, I went through fairly similar worries and doubts, almost convincing myself I was turning gay when all the evidence pointed otherwise. It must be something to with hormones (and the fact that you'll hump anything when your'e a teenager), after shunning the idea for long enough the thoughts went and now I'm a 'normal bloke'.
I do believe it is why so many homosexuals seem to be around nowadays, 50 years ago for instance, the idea of being gay was unthinkable, therefore, during the hormonal changes when such thoughts start occuring, kids would have looked down on themselves and shun such thoughts, but now that 'gayness' is considered acceptable in society, kids allow themselves to embrace these complex emotions and end up gay.
Don't worry, no one is 'pre-destined' to be gay, if you actively try to control your thoughts, then you will continue to be a lady loving bloke for the rest of your life - get in!
2007-01-23 22:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by amtghota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
becoming gay is a choice. a great resource for overcoming these ideas.
http://www.ccel.org/contrib/exec_outlines/hom/hom_04.htm
The Formula For Producing A Homosexual
This formula can be illustrated in this way:
A Predisposition
Toward Homosexuality
Plus
That First
Homosexual Experience
Multiplied By
Pleasurable and Positive
Homosexual Thoughts
To Which Is Added
More Homosexual
Experiences
Multiplied By
More Pleasurable
Thoughts
So work on not thinking about thoughs thoughts, replace them with dreams of your girlfriend!
2007-01-26 03:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are not gay, I promise. If you love women then you are not gay. It sounds like you are worried because everyone is so trigger happy to point out if someone is gay. And even though I definitely don't want this to sound bad, it sounds like you are a little homophobic, but only in the instance that you don't want to be picked out as gay. A lot of straight men are like that. They don't like hardly any physical contact with other men. But as long as you know you're not gay, which youo're not from the sounds of it, then don't worry about the rest, just let it go. Be a happy straight man!
2007-01-23 22:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by #1 Buckeye Fan!!!! 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Um maybe you're bisexual. I fully understand they you get pleasure from your girlfriend however most men that are homophobic are supressing homosexual tendencies. The way you say you move because your friend is sleeping near you. If you were completely secure with your sexual preference...you wouldn't care. And for the record gay men do find women attractive just not sexually. I get my t!ts touched by more gay men then straight.
2007-01-23 22:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by Cool Guy With Long Hair 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why put a label on yourself? You are a sexual being first and foremost. It is perfectly natural to have sexual feelings. In your case they are mainly directed towards women but you are wondering about men. Do whatever you are comfortable with. If you want to explore the sexual possibilities with guys, do so. This does not make you gay, straight or bisexual.
When you are ready to label yourself, you will do so if necessary but you don't have to do so. There are plenty of men who regard themselves as being straight who have sex with guys. There are plenty who regard themselves as gay who have sex with women. This does not make them bisexual unless that is what they consider themselves to be.
There are far too many people ready with definitions and labels. Ignore them. They cannot tell you who or what you are, that is up to you. Explore your feelings and desires. If that includes sex with men then fine, try it. If you don't like it, you don't have to do it again but don't die wondering.
2007-01-23 23:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by tentofield 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you have sexual feelings or urges for other guys you are str8. don't worry, you are only 19. your hormones are going crazy right now and the worrying isn't helping. it sounds to me like you really are str8 and that you are fully attracted to women, which is fine, not my choice thank god, but fine for you. i have come accress this subject more than once in different respects. i have this nephew and at a certain point thought he was gay or bi and it really bothered him because he was in love with his gf at the time. i asked him why he felt thet way and he replied "i can understand gay guys and i can look at a guy a think he is good looking or handsome". i asked him if when he thought this did he have sexual or romantic urges to be with him or to kiss him or anything like that and he replied "no, of course not". i infromed him that a str8 man who is very comfortable with himself and his orientation is able to look at another guy and be able to tell if he is handsome and that they are able to understand not just gay guys but everyone very well. he got to thinking about it and realized that what i was saying made perfect sinse. but back to you, honey, i don't think you are gay by what you are saying here. it just sounds like you are over thinking things to much. on weather gay guys find women sexually unattractive, i would have to say yes, but most gay men like myself are like my nephew, they are so comfortable with being gay that they can look at a woman and know if she is hot or not. just not for sex. don't worry about it so much, you are str8. as far as your friend that sleeps over alot, if it makes you uncomfortable to sleep in the same bed as him then don't. can he not sleep on the floor or you could. or what about a couch or something. but unless he makes passes at you aor touches you i don't know why you would think that. there are alot of people that i know had to share a bed growing up and need to feel someone close in order to sleep good. some friends of mine kids sleep in the same bed and they 12 and 13 year old boys. neither one shows any signs of being gay but they have to sleep in the same bed as someone else or they will never go to sleep. try to relax and not worry so much. life is too short to be worrying all the time. you are young, you have a girl you like/love, you have your whole life ahead of you, start enjoying it. hope this helps. take care and God Bless.
2007-01-23 22:41:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with being gay, I have gay friends that still look at women and can be attracted to them.
You may not be gay, but if you feel like you are interested in males as well, you may be bi.
there is nothing wrong with either of these,
I am sure that gay men still have sexual attractions to women, it is natural.
2007-01-23 22:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by bekka 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are have strong feelings for girls then you are probably straight. If you are nervous about being close to a friend it may be something that you want to try, but are nervous to act on it. Many people have homosexual experiences but grow up heterosexual. It is called experimentation. If it does occur, do not have a panic attack. You may like it. If you do not like it, then you have your answer also.
2007-01-23 22:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well to be honest< I can't say for sure. But I wish you well with your search for the answer. I can add this though> I get all my answers from God. maybe it's just a suggestion, but it's always worked for me.
I had panic attacks. Confronting head on your problems works well with them...
2007-01-25 05:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by djdjr01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋