2007-01-23 21:46:56 · 75 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess you find a way to move past the marriage and get on with your life. I don't think you should stay married to someone whom you don't love and adore. It is not fair to him or to you.
If you don't believe in divorce, then you need to find a way to love him. Begin by loving him because he married you and for things he does for you, like providing a good home or whatever it is that he does. Go out on dates with him and get to know him again. Find some mutual interests and spend time together doing those. Find a way to become his friend and then the love will come naturally. Just make up your mind that you want to love him and do whatever it takes.
2007-01-23 21:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by bashnick 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Sorry to tell you the truth that you are the root of the problem. Did you ever ask yourself how you could married a wrong one? Since when you know that he isn't the one (and you still married him?)
Ok, I don't want to be hard to you anymore.
Here is the quick fix.
JESUS CHRIST. Have Him to take a control on both of you. If you believe God created things from nothing, then He will create for your a dream marriage from all dammed things.
I can't fix your marriage from the distance, but if you listen to the song Bette Midler (from the distance) then you'll realize that there is a greater power than human do, that could fix and/or ruin humanity.
No need to blame the past. Embrace the future. Enjoy the present. Seek help. Talk to him about your feelings and don't expect too much from yourself and himself. Give thank to him and GOD. Forgive him and yourself. Build 2 ways communication. Respect yourself and each other. Listen twice and talk once (that's why God created 2 ears and 1 mouth). He will make a way where it seems to be no way.
2007-01-31 21:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your question means that there was an alternative man around when you got married and that you chose the wrong one, then all I can say is you need to admit your mistake to yourself and do something about it by getting out of the relationship. Whether the other man is still about once your divorce comes through is another matter, but remember that you only live this life once, and that dwelling on regrets can leave you bitter and sad.
If you mean that you just shouldn't have got married in the first place, basically the same goes.... but next time you get asked to walk down the aisle.... have a good think before you say yes! We can all allow ourselves at least one boo-boo, but we should really learn from our mistakes.
2007-01-28 04:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by mommakayos 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends how unhappy you are. I truly believe that one has to live on or above the happiness line for most of the time. And what that happiness line is, that all depends on what you regard the pillars of being happy.
And if you are not, well, then you need to take action because being unhappy spoils your mood and emotional state of mind as well as your self esteem. And the stress related to that can also have physical consequences.
I cant tell you what action should should undertake. I am not going to promote divorce, but if that is the only way to be happy again I cannot vote against it. A Marriage cannot be used as an excuse to remain unhappy, just because you made a mistake.
Maybe you should try separation first, to see if being alone ( Not with your husband) is what you really want before disbanding the marriage.
Good luck!
2007-01-23 21:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by MM 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hello,
How do you know you married the wrong man?
Should have said a bit more so we can understand the message better to answer properly.
Maybe tell him and maybe if true love he will try to help the problem both ways.
The course of love never ran smooth
Don't be so quick to abandon ship.
After all people don't generally get married without love on both parts. UN less arranged
Good Luck in finding out ether way,
Sandra
2007-01-30 22:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I realised I had married the wrong man but had three kids and divorced him when they were teenagers. I always knew he wasnt right. Now I am married to Mr Right! The answer is to move on and dont waste any more time. Obviously if you have kids then you have to consider them but if not get out of there!
2007-01-23 22:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
One marries for better or worse, the grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence, but it isn't.! Is your husband mean to you? Or is it that you don't love him? Marriage is not a bed of roses. You have to take the good with the bad. A lot of times when the passion and romance isn't there anymore, some want out. These two things are not what marriage is all about.
2007-01-24 00:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by Gerry 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My sister married the wrong man 4 times. She would realize she only loved there money, not them. I think even though it hurt the other men real bad, it was the right thing to do. They found the woman for them later. When she finally found Mr. wright, he found he wasn't in love with her. It is funny the way life is sometimes. Now she goes from boyfriend to boyfriend. I don't think she will ever really be happy.
2007-01-31 07:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by naynay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you had a choice at one point between two and chose one then you must have had a good reason at the time. If however you mean that generally he isn't the one for you, I'm afraid you are going to have to just get on with it. Love does grow in a relationship. If things are just impossible though, you could think about leaving but I reckon that has to be if things are getting violent or something. You sort of made your bed...
2007-01-28 08:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know but I might be in the same situation as you. we've been together for over 7 years and married for almost 2 and we fight all the time, he says we have nothing in common, etc. It's heart breaking. My plan is to just kinda give it a little time and see how things go. I am going to try and do something nice for him when he comes home from work and see if he's nicer. good luck to you.
2007-01-30 10:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by Cindy C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋