I'm 17 and gay. Its a secret that i've been hiding from everyone for over 10 years now. I recently realised that there is someone who is really understanding and trustworthy. Its an old school teacher of mine. We still keep in touch every now and again but do you think if I ask her to meet up and speak, she might think that I'm using her? Thing is, I really want to tell someone because I'm s_h_i_t_-tired of acting! I want to be myself in front of atleast one person and I want to feel the relief that most guys probably felt after telling someone. But will she not think that I'm using her? Please help me! I don't know if I should do it or not!
2007-01-23 21:38:26 · 9 answers · asked by Me Y 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
There is no using of her. That's all in your own mind. If you have a friendship with her and would care to impart some information about yourself, then I shold imagine she would be honoured that you told her.
2007-01-23 23:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person is really understanding and trustworthy I would do it. And you will see after you told somebody, that this whole being gay isn't such a big issue at all. Most people I told where like, oh, oke, and than continued with their work. But before I came out, it was a huge mountain I was looking up to, but you will see that it isn't so hard.
If I were you I would tell that trustworthy person. You will feel good after telling and it is also very nice to have a person you can talk about this. To get some feedback is very helpfull!
good luck!
2007-01-23 21:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by frenzie-ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds as if you have known this teacher for some time and that you and her have become actual friends. and if you tell her that you think of her as a friend and that you really need to talk i think she will be fine with it. i do not think she will think you are using her. but eventually you will need to come out to everyone to feel good about yourself and to keep from going bonkers. but i must ask you, you have known you were gay since you were 7 years old? that is pretty young to be deciding such things that will impact the rest of your life. don't get me wrong, it sounds like you are and that at 17 you still feel the same but i was thirteen when i realized i was gay and i thought that was too young. but everyone is different and they realize at different times. i have a friend who didn't realize until she was 34. so i guess it depends on the person. but really go ahead and talk to her, i think you will find that it is okay. take care and God bless.
2007-01-23 22:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. Usually our friendships are formed from the sharing of difficult things in our life. We don't use people when we ask for their friendship. If anything she should feel flattered that you elected to confide in her.
2007-01-23 21:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it.
It's the first step to coming out, and it'll make the next one easier to tell.
Good luck.
2007-01-23 21:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wont beieve the relkeif of telling someone!!! she sounds like a good candidate, and talking to a friend is in no way 'using' them.. that's how it works...
2007-01-23 23:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were her I'd never think you used me. If she's a smart person she wouldn't think so either, so, if you think she's smart, go and tell her.
2007-01-23 21:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by Love_my_Cornish_Knight❤️ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if being gay is right why are you hiding it
2007-01-23 22:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by booge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it
2007-01-23 22:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by evening_dewpoint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋