She told me the last time about her past life.she was in a relationship with a guy and she find out finally that this guy is lie so she stop going out him. besides that she got raped forced in bed two times by her bosses where she worked as house keeper respectively...even now she still a house keeper for a man who divorce his wife thrree years ago ..my question is it normal that i contiue with her? should say no and go by my business ..she told me that now she is a virgine in Christ.. i am so pissed up what should i do. your advise is needed.
2007-01-23 21:20:35 · 9 answers · asked by Apelete M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Her past has what to do with your relationship? Are you considering holding something she couldn't control against her?
2007-01-23 21:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you love her what difference does it make what happened to her in the past? If she is loving and loyal to you then what is in the past is in the past. Obviously being raped is affecting her life and she probably told you so she could get a little support from you. The right thing for you to do is put your arm around her, tell her you love her and just listen to her. That's probably all she needed in the first place was for you to listen and not pass judgment on her. And if the things that have happened to her are truly bothering her maybe she should go see a therapist. It would be a very good thing for her to do. Rape can be very debilitating to a woman and it has happened to her twice. She is probably devastated.
Be a man. Console her and don't pass judgment on her.
2007-01-24 05:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by valducci53 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she was raped twice the bosses would be in jail i hope they are no woman deserves to be rape nor do they ask for it. But her still doing housekeeping leaves a impression that she is a sexy person seeking attention from her bosses and you stated this new boss divorced his wife three years ago and she is working for him now! I would have to ask if she is doing this for attention- a sexual need or if she just had a bad luck with the prior bosses. Again no woman ask to get raped but her prior 2 bosses raped her doing housekeeping and now she is back doing housekeeping and this boss is divorced i would say to you get away from her 100% She is seeking attention sexual chances are the prior bosses are not in jail that would give you clue.
2007-01-24 06:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by mike p 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really love and care for her you wouldn't be asking this question. What if you married another woman and she got raped are u going to run and get a divorce or try and help her through the situation. Maybe you aren't the man for her because it seems as if you don't have enough courage and strength to help her get through these tough times.
2007-01-24 06:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by step b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Donot consider the past. Infact it is you who should be supporting her and not being fed up . If you truely love her, your love will erase all the mistakes and painful experiences of the past. You should show her that you love her and that your love for her is greater than all these accusations against her. You should show her that she have importance in your eyes. Try to put yourself in her shoes and understand her and do what according to you, you would like your bf response to this situation... Make her feel that she is being loved by you and that you love her not because of what she does but because of what she is. She opened her heart to you and reveal to you her painful experiences because i think she has faith in you and think that you will be the one who will not point a finger at her... Look deep inside your heart, make all the voices around u silent and if you truely love her u`ll find out that the past she had does not matter you love her and you simply love her, she is now with you-the one she loves and try to communicate with her, let her express her feelings, u`ll know and understand her better and help her out.
2007-01-24 06:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those things that happened in her past were beyond her control completely..... She is a victim, what - are you going to dump her cos she has been a rape victim?!!! You suck man.... Like Im sure you are probably confused, but look at it from her point of veiw hey... It probably took alot for her to tell you that, and she probably only did it cos she loves you and wanted to be honest with you.....Grow up.
2007-01-24 05:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by Eve M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off she is no longer a Virgin, secondly this happened in her past you will have to gain her trust, you shouldn't leave her because of things that happened in her past.
2007-01-24 06:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go find a nice normal girl that doesn't have all these issues---there is no future with her----nothing in common--you are wasting your time. GO TODAY and start looking for a normal, happy girl
2007-01-24 05:43:07 · answer #8 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are u urself virgin?
The problem can be solved by her changing her job.
2007-01-24 05:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋