help me im 7 months pregnant and feeling so down because my partner keeps things and lies about things?

Answer 1

Did you know he was like this before you got pregnant?

Answer 2

Not a good sign for someone about to have the responsibility of a new person coming into their life.
You need to enjoy your pregnancy without having to worry about what he is doing it causes added stress to you and the little one.

If he is doing this now maybe the thought of being a father is some thing he does not want have you spoken to him.
Nice idea to have a child but it does not always build a relationship or bring people together.

As for the lies do you think he has lied all along and if this is the case then you need out of a bad thing.
Think long and hard and if possible without emotions attached to your partner I hate to say it but people do not change.

Good luck for the future be it with or without your partner.

Answer 3

What kind of things does he lie about? What things does he keep from you? Consider all of these before you do anything yet. If the things he is keeping from you are quite extreme then confront him. But pregnancy hormones can make you completely paranoid and your mind works overtime. I'm almost 40 weeks pregnant but I have been exactly like that all thru pregnancy. Accusing my partner of cheating, and allsorts when he turns out to be 100% innocent. Your boyfriend may even be keeping things from you because he knows that you will be paranoid and doesn't want you to get upset over nothing.
But just consider what he is lying about first. Get proof. Then you can do what you want to do. Just remember, your friends and family will always be there for u. Good luck with ur pregnancy! Hope everything goes well 4 u xx

Answer 4

Hi there dear. It is really hard to give you good advice when there are so many things I do not know. What do you mean by "keeps things" and what sort of things does he lie about? So much depends on the answer to those questions.
Are you suspicious that he is seeing someone else?
Is he lying to you about financial matters?
Do you mean that he is keeping things from you as in not telling you about a problem at work or a possible raise in rent or something that might upset you? Or is he keeping things from you that he would have no reason and no right to keep?
He could be tying to protect you or he could be an awful person who is just a liar. Between those two scenarios there are a world of things. It is just too hard to say.
In one case you need to pack your things and get out before the baby is born. In the other situation you just need to have a heart to heart talk about the fact that you are pregnant not incompetent. He needs to be talking to you!
You are the only one who knows the answers to these things. You will have to make that call.
Take care you yourself and that precious baby, those are your priorities!
Blessings
Lady T~

Answer 5

Oh that's a wonderful situation in which to bring a baby into the world.. Think of it as a small preview of what is yet to come if you remain with a sadistic partner . He should be pampering you while you carry his child . Pick up the phone and call an organization who will help & guide you in the difficult times ahead ( if you stay around for more ) . If you are in a small town , call a women's shelter and ask for referrals . if it's a big city , call Salvation Army or any religious organization. Find out now what your options are - before it's too late . Once he sees you are serious and can stand on your own two feet , it may wake him up ; or it may not . In either case-you now have a plan not to be a victim .If you allow yourself to be one - that is what you will be . It's all up to you .Being 7 mos. pregnant is no excuse for being a victim .And there's no excuse for a "man" who bullies women .

Answer 6

Firstly you are pregnant and you must be going through lots of emotions. If things didn't bother you before with small lies, or whatever the case, now that you are to be a mother, and have responsibility, in your little nest you want trust, love, effection and understanding.

If you are susbecting this because it is true that he is lying, you should clear this out, so then you can get on with your own life if he is REALLY a bad man.

If it is little lies, may be he himself is going through changes of thoughts like fear of being a father, and feeling a bit strange and trupped. But as soon as the baby comes, things may change dramatically. He may either just leave you and let his stupid ignorance of making you get on with your child, or he may fall in love with a beautiful baby and be there for you more than you think.

Best is communicate with him kindly, don't shout. The more you shout a man or show your anxiety, the more he runs away and tries to find freedom.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Is this normal behaviour for him, or is it something you've noticed recently?

I would talk to him, and ask him to be upfront and honest with you, because you are worried he is keeping things from you and you're imagining the worst. If he opens up and clarifies everything, at least you will both know exactly what is going on and whether your relationship is ok.

If he seems to be holding stuff back, or refuses to talk to you openly, then I'm afraid you have a decision to make. You alone know how you feel, and whether you think all this is secrecy is something sinister or not so serious. Trust your gut instinct, and do talk about it with someone whose opinion you value before taking any irreversible actions.

Good luck with everything, and don't forget to look after yourself in these last couple of months!

Answer 8

Put it to them that they need to wise up as you both have a chance a making your child the best thing that ever happened in your lives, if they decide still not to change then you need to get advice on how to cope on your own, if your partner wont be honest for you now how can your partner be honest for a child. I have two children and am seperated from there mother and find that the only way to cope with her ways is not to be around her. I couldnt live with a liar. I still do my best to see the children as often as possible and will always make sure that they know im there for them, so I hope you have the chance and also get through this for your child who is the most important thing in your lives now. all the best for the future.

Answer 9

Well lets look at this from two ways, first off, what wrong with keeping things? What things? and what Lies? You've got people above calling him a b*****d without knowing the firs thing of what is worrying you???

But what I'm thinking is....you're 7 months gone right? Guess what? The Hormone fairy has made a visit to you! You are now going to be bouncing off the walls with emotional swings and round-a-bouts, and there is a good change you maybe hyper-sensitive.

If you are down now, be VERY aware of post-natal depression (baby blues) and get it treated before you start harming yourself or your child.

Answer 10

See the sources below...also, have you spoken with a judge or an attorney about your partner's role in your decision to carry to term? He will have a financial responsibility to you and the child. He may be aware of it and trying to weasel his way out of having to provide for you.

I am sure that he is a very special person, a wonderful individual who keeps things and lies about things just so that you will not worry about those things that he takes and fibs about.

Get some rest...listen to some beautiful music...and stop focusing your concern and attention on him. You have yourself to worry about. Are you getting enough exercise? Are you remembering to take your vitamins? Is the child using your ribcage like it is a monkey bar? Take care and have a safe and successful delivery and life thereafter...who knows maybe he is pawning things to save up and purchase an engagement ring to make it 'right' before delivery.

Answer 11

You better come to grips with yourself and confront this issue before you end up raising the kid on your own. If he lies to you and keeps stuff from you get rid of him. These are not traits you want your kid to learn. Go get a man that appreciates you and shows that through honesty

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