I have moved to class 12 but why I dont know I think I have not grown up?
My all friends tell me that I am a child.They all take tobacco,drinks,cigars etc etc but whenever I protest,they call me a baby.Are those things are neccessary for being a grown up?
I am good at studies,a good sportsman,a good orator but no one considers me as their own as I am not addicted to such things.Does growing up needs these???Please help!!!!!
2007-01-23 21:08:32 · 17 answers · asked by icy_cool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are already Grown up!!!
Saying no to Those Bad habbits is the Biggest thing you have done to prove that you are grown up.
You say that you friends have these habbits. these things are Considered Bad as far as the Civilised Society is Concerned. These So called Friends of yours are Going on a Wrong Path. and you have Choosen the Right Path By saying No to These things.
According to me you are that Most matured person Among your so Called Friends who Call you a Child.
Infact I would say What ever you have done by Saying No to Bad Habbits is what prooves that you are Already Grown up.
Three Cheers you You man....Three Pats on the back.
I wish I had this Attitude towards Life man !!!!
Your parent Will be Proud of you if they see this.
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2007-01-23 21:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by groovy_252001 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pay no attention to what your friends say.....they are being misguided by resorting to such false symbols of grown-ups.
You are a grown-up, when you are self-dependent.
You can consider yourself grown-up, when after completing your studies, you find yourself a good job and can take care of yourself.
When you reach that stage, you will easily realise the meaning of a real grown-up.
Till that time, continue with the good habits & skills you have now and shape yourself to have a successful career.
DONT GET DISTURBED BY WHAT YOUR FRIENDS SAY OR MAKE FUN OF YOU
2007-01-23 21:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you hang out with losers, if they put you down for that. Misery loves company. Most adult are incapable of dealing with reality so they drown it with what ever substances. maybe your better off. I believe the definition of being grown up is a cultural concept that is usually determined by age. many cultures engage in some ritual as this age is reached by an adolescent. In america this subject has rare attributions. Americans become adults in increments. They gain partial adult responsibilites as they age. at 15 then 17 then 18 then 21 then 25 then finally 35. each age gives you the ability to engage in more "adult" behaviors or vices.
2007-01-23 21:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by Another۞Human 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assess your personality.
Do not listen to your class mates, but decide yourself. Try these tests.
http://www.wishafriend.com/quiz/personality/
About Yourself
* Are you taking life for granted?
* How nice are you?
* Test to know if you are stone-hearted?
* Are you living a beautiful life?
* Test how cynical are you?
* How well do you handle criticism?
* The god fearing person test
* Is reading novels your passion or an obsession?
* Are you a nature lover?
* Do you find time for yourself?
* Are you a good party organizer?
* Are you public transport?
* Are you a city lover or a country lover?
* Do you fight or take flight?
* Do you live in the present or the past?
* Are you a boastful person?
* Are you heart or mind?
* Do you test your limits?
* Are you a visual or an auditory person?
* How excited are you about life?
* Are you dying for attention?
* Are you original and mature?
* Do you have something unique in you?
* What are you looking for in life?
* Do you love kids?
* Do you control your life?
* What is your travelling style?
* Are you a day or a night person?
* Are you environment friendly?
* Is politics for you?
* Are you a cleanliness freak?
* Are you a social samaritan?
* Are you a world citizen?
* What choices do you make in life?
* Do you care for animals?
* Do you have a sweet tooth?
2007-01-23 21:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not..in fact your attitude makes you grown up and them really immature and disrespectful. Your life is your business, and what they do is their own business---don't make any further judgements---find new friends and places to go----or just be happy with who you are--be proud that you exhibit integrity and dignity. Concentrate on school--you will need it for your future--it is the most important thing in your life right now. In 5 years you won't see these people so don't pay them any more attention. Good luck and be proud of who you are.
2007-01-23 21:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the other so called friends alone,You are grown up and respect yurself as you do not allow yourself to get involved in pure presure,good job and be proud of yourself.
As a grown-up (you) can set back and watch how crazy it it watching them doing all the cazy things there doing,keep yourself clean and doin't get involved in the drinking,smoking.you to good for that.
2007-01-23 22:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by Dawn l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, stay away from all of that. those things do not consider you to be 'grown'. don't fall for peer pressure... be you and be happy about it. when i was in high school, i was constantly surrounded by people who smoked, drank, did drugs... and whenever i was offered any of those substances, i always refused. i didn't care what people thought of me because in my own mind, i was 'cool' because i was my own person. people actually acknowledged me for not falling for peer pressure. the people that try to pressure you into doing anything or call you names for not following them are not true friends. a good friend would understand why you don't want to do any of those bad things and would respect that. sounds like you're hanging around the wrong crowd, hun. but to answer your question, it does not consider you to be a grown up by doing any of those things. by you refusing to do any of the things that they consider to be 'grown up', i would say that that is a very 'grown up' decision. stick up for your own beliefs and be your own person. never follow the crowd. best wishes :)
2007-01-23 21:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mizz Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me myself from my own recent experiences have learned that growing up isnt measured by cigarettes, alcohol, sex or drugs. It's better to let your body and mind grow at its own pace and let other think what they want to. Its a free country and people can be unique right? You'll be seen as a grown up when they realize that what they are doing is destroying their bodies. Don't measure your worth by what others think or say about you! it is because we are unique, what makes us all special in our own little ways.. and hey! life is too short to be thinking about those cheap people! live life to the full... before its too late.^_^
2007-01-23 21:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by gee^_^ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
1.) Friends like you have who needs enemies?
2.) You need to be a friend to yourself!
Sounds like you have done a good job so far making your own decisions knowing right from wrong.
So please be a better judge in picking your friends.
A good friend doesn't mold you into what they do are think is right for you they are a good friend when they have accepted you for you.
You are grown up and more so than your so called friends.
THEY NEED TO GROW UP!!!
Sandra
2007-01-27 19:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're considered grown up or mature when you are able to distinguish between what is right and wrong. Wisdom comes with age, but it has to grow from within, it can't be induced.
2007-01-24 03:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by Fragile Rock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋