I met judy and we gat married having barely known each other. i trusted her innocent look! i did not know she was 5months pregnant. afetr two months i qsned her and she denied, as a matter of fact she told me that it was my baby. i believed her. the third month was terrible and i pinned her down and there laid teh truth. she delivered teh following day, a boy. my parents and her's pleaded with me and i accepted the child. i accepted her as my wife even after all that. a year down the lane and we was blessed with my own son. Kyle. She started behaving strangely, she became EXCTRAVAGANT. I go to work, coming back she is gone!, with the two kids. she had gone to her parents home, i go, get her and she romises to settle down. less than a week she is seeing the ex-bf! i overlook it. a month pass and 29th of december, she leaves again!!. I dont think i gat any life with this woman, what do u guys think? and what shud i do with my son? am in a dilemma.
2007-01-23 20:58:50 · 14 answers · asked by giggs9917 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So you had 2 children with this woman—the one she gave birth to just months after you married and your ‘own son’. I hate to tell you Buddy but you’re the legal father of both. Because you accepted the first child as your own and voluntarily took on the role of father (knowing that the child was not yours), there’s a VERY good chance that the court will not allow you to now disestablish paternity (even if a dna test proves he’s not your biological child) because doing so would not be in the child’s best interest—which is all the court is concerned about. Yes, I know that may not sound 'fair' but many things about the system aren't necessarily 'fair'.
It certainly doesn’t sound like the marriage is a priority for her. It might be time to talk to an attorney.
2007-01-24 01:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm . . . this is very bad. You should not have married a woman who was not telling you the truth. She was trying to pin you with the responsibility of another man's child, and for all you know this new child could be for that other guy too. The bad thing is, that if Kyle is really your child, you are going to have to pay child support if you leave your wife. I don't see any way you can get out of this without major financial cost to you. But you made a big mistake when you gave in to everyone's pressure. Your parents should have known better than to encourage you to accept some woman who isn't trustworthy.
Hmmm . . . I think you should see a lawyer about getting a divorce soon. I hope the courts aren't too hard on you. This really is tragic. I feel for you. Good luck!
2007-01-23 21:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but after reading what you wrote it's no wonder she left, don't think any woman would put up with your attitude. Come on, if you were married 4 months and she had a kid, how could you be the father unless you were sleeping with her 5 months before you got married? And you accepted her as your wife after she had the child, didn't you do that by marrying her or was that a ruse? Gee, maybe you both need to grow up, hopefully separately.
2007-01-23 21:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, what a selfish little girl you married ! I don't think there's much hope for this marriage ( if you can call it that ), sadly I think you need to separate, with regard to your son, as long as she is treating him well then maybe he should stay with his mother with you having very regular contact. If this selfish female loved you she wouldn't have told you such terrible lies and certainly wouldn't treat you in this dreadful way. Best wishes.
2007-01-23 21:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
y would u marry a woman u barley no what was u thinkin anyway take your son and get a divorce and find someone else better just dont leave your boy with her u may never see him again
2007-01-23 21:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by Nate Dogg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in a dilemma; you are just stupid. Leave the woman NOW, before you end up doing something stupid to her or she to you and then your life is ruined forever. You can't live with somebody like that. It will get worse as time goes on. LEAVE NOW.
2007-01-23 21:09:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to make deceision like separating child from mother but in this case I think you should get a lawyer (to get a custody) and divorce her as soon as possible
2007-01-23 23:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She seems to have taken for a ride from the beginning. It’s not working. Marriage is supposed to make you happy and you don’t sound happy. I also suspect that she never loved you
2007-01-23 21:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by blondedarkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your son from her and get your love life back.. Leave her!
2007-01-23 21:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_gal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront her with ur views and decide based on the replies.
2007-01-23 21:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋