isthis possible to keep relation with u r boy friend after marriage?

Question

u r marriage was not happend with u r loved once after marrying some one . will u maintain friend relationship or only sex relation.

Answer 1

according to our indian tradition u should have sex only with the person u got married to. but u can maintain a freindly relationship with ur boy freind forever even after marriage

Answer 2

... you didn’t do a love marriage, right??? ... and you still love your boy friend and I guess that your wish was to marry him and not actual husband...???
Well, first of all, I feel very sorry for your situation and I think, that these costumes of arranged marriages have to vanish as soon as possible as it brings so much sadness to the people...
Anyway, now you are married with somebody you obviously don’t love and I even guess that you don’t know your husband very well.
I understand your sadness and loneliness; I suppose you would turn back the clock if you could...
BUT: You have to face this new situation as an adult person.
Living in daydreams and being unfaithful with your husband isn’t the solution.
Maybe your husband also has been forced into that marriage and feels uncomfortable. Maybe also he would have preferred to marry another person...
This is something YOU should have faced before accepting this marriage. You could have packed your bags and gone away. Nobody can put you a pistol on the head and force you to marry somebody if you say NO...
Well, this possibility has fated away.
So what you should do now is face reality and be honest with your actual situation.
I recommend the following: Try to establish a relationship with your husband, talk with him, go out with him and try to get used to him. Believe me, for him all this is as hard as for you.
So if you put good will and he does the same, maybe you discover that he is a nice person and that you like him.
Sexual activity also helps a lot; try to be gentle and soft.
Maybe you will fall in love with your husband after some time and find out that he is the right person for you.
At least give it a honest try.
Maybe you find out that you can’t live with him, because he has a bad temper or you simply can’t stand him...
Then my dear, you should be also honest with yourself and go for a divorce, because you must give your husband the same possibility to build up a new life.
Being unfaithful is no solution, because you would be playing around with your husband and also with the former boy friend, as he also has the right to find a wife and build up family.
Come on, give it a try… time can do wonder to a broken heart!!

Answer 3

Wrong question lady..
Put it this way - Is it ethical for a married person to carry a relationship with anyone esle?

The answer is it is not ethical. The way you have put up the question it seems that you have decided to cheat your husband and get along with your boyfriend, but you don't know which is the safest way to do it.

If you really want to be with your boyfriend then divorce your husband and then go with your boyfriend.

First of all why did you marry a person when you loved the other? Weren't you strong enough to manage the situations and make things go your way. Then how do you think would you be well prepared to carry on the relationship further.

Answer 4

Vijeyata if you have consented to marry someone else inspite of loving some one else try to make the marriage work. Love will surely grow and most important never ever compare your hubby with your ex love.
If you are going to maintain physical relationship with your ex lover then i am sure it is going to end in a disaster which you may not be able to recover.
But then if your ex lover is willing to marry you even now i would suggest that you divorce your hubby and go live with your love.

Your life is in your hands and you have to take the call

Answer 5

I don't think you need to have any relation, friendly or sexual with your ex boy friend after marriage. It might rock your marriage. That doesn't mean you don't look and smile at him when you meet. But don't make any extra effort to maintain the relationship as of old.

Answer 6

You can maintaing a good friendly relationship if he/She was a good friend of yoursw and if you are sure he/she will not put u into trouble.About a sex relationship you dont need that after marriage since you have a partner for a life time.

Answer 7

if your daring nullify the marriage and marry ur boy-friend.but we cant be like that due to situations.
if your love is not your marriage you will suffocate and suffer and may be tempted to do so.but ultimately ur boy-friend will also marry .
but all this will create tension for you,for him and for your kids and also family.
if you dont have kids,if you really dont love your husband,discuss with him and take divorce and marry your boy-friend.
extra-marital relations are funny to see in movies,but in real life,you will be hurting many people..you will be cheating your husband.as far as i know noone can live with two people,noone can love two people.ultimately in the long-run you will kill yourselves.
your question shows your inclined towards your friend.
all this is dangerous.and big-headache.
either for you to dare and marry him or else silently suffer through-out your life.
first of all ask yourselves whether you love him or not.we are in india.remember that also.

Answer 8

Let me see if I understood your question.
You want to know if you can continue seeing your boyfriend after marrying someone else?
No, because it would only bring problems.
If you want to have sex with your boyfriend then why did you get married? Having him as just your friend after a history with him would only bring problems.
It's time to move on.

Answer 9

just as the bible says you cannot serve two masters, you cannot have two relations.
concentrate on the marriage, as it is, it is difficult to keep one good relation with your life partner, the rate of divorce is quite high.

Answer 10

Your husband should be your lover, best friend and companion
through life....You should prefer his company above all others..
If this is not the case......You have marriage problems...