Hi,
i am unable to stop friendship with a guy who is asking me for a physical relationship. He talks to me only on that now a days.
And for marriage he is looking for another girl. I haven't yet committed with him. But worried that he has the talent to make me do it. What can i do now?
2007-01-23 19:52:49 · 14 answers · asked by lovely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you're afraid he might be able to persuade into doing something you don't really want to do then you're walking on a dangerous ground. I would suggest to be firm with him and act like you mean what you say because otherwise he'll be able to manipulate you (that's what i call it when someone makes another person do something they don't want to do) and you'll end up hurt. Or if you're afraid that you might fall into his trap then "cut the chord" early on before it gets worse for you. Good luck
2007-01-23 20:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by cassie86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop any contact. If you know this guy is basically trying to use you- then he's not for you. He can't "make" you do something you don't WANT to do. Don't call him. Don't take his calls. It seems harsh- but it ceases the drama and the ability to manipulate. You must be strong in this- and it is HARD. You will be happier for leaving him behind- let him pull that crap with some other female.
2007-01-24 03:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by TRAC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, don't be alone with him, tell him to get lost and to stop pestering you, erase his number from your phone and don't reply/answer when he contacts you, make it plain he is not your type and no-one has the talent to make you do something if you really don't want to! Tell him you no longer want to be friends and that if he persists then you will go to the Police and file a harassment charge, and go through with the harassment charge IF he doesn't back off.
2007-01-24 04:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, please believe in yourself. Have more confident.
Have you watched the holiday starring cameron diaz and kate winslet? I think your the character of KAte Winslet. The one who is being used by the boyfriend/ex boyfriend.
Please, do not let anyone take advantage from you.
Be smart, and save time, energy and your care for someone else that would do the same for you.
Try to break up first with him, I bet he will beg you to stay with him and dont do it! Tell him your looking for someone who doeas not take advantage and have sincere feeling for you. LEt him be the one who felt all the sorrow for once!
2007-01-24 04:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by Chacha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from him don't let yourself be fooled into just being used for a physical relationship. You deserve better. Tell him you are done and move on, he is going to find someone else and he told you that already so don't waste your time ! LOL
2007-01-24 03:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by LSD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously see the warning signs so take heed of them. Make yourself unavailable to him. Be busy doing something else when he wants to see you, when you do talk (if you talk) and he brings up physical relationship tell him you are not interested and change the subject, if he keeps it up then hang up or leave. No one can make you do something if you can see it coming, make the choice to remove yourself but a potentially bad situation and do it.
2007-01-24 04:00:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore him is one of the classic moves a girl will use on this kind of thing but now, i encourage you to do it. he clearly want to sleep with you and nothing more. you said it yourself, he wants to marry another girl... so why bother worrying about this? if he wont stop bothering you, call a male relative of yours to confront him. he's not worth thinking about.
2007-01-24 09:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What!! you must be kidding me!!
He Just Wanna ***** you and marry someoneelse,, and u know it?? get a life and respect ur self..
Spank him and dump him
2007-01-24 04:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him. Run away and hide if you must. Just think that you will not forgive yourself after he succeeds in making you do it.
2007-01-24 03:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by terra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pas him up he is not the one for you he does want you for sex that is it dont be dumb and give in et away fast he will just hurt you and you are not even in a relationship with him be smart and dont los your diginty
2007-01-24 08:55:38 · answer #10 · answered by kaylaz1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋