I am emotionally attached to my gf, and this thing hurts me alot. I know I have to change myself, but how ?
2007-01-23 19:50:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
go on holiday with her enjoy yourselfs
2007-01-23 19:54:45 · answer #1 · answered by lee b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you LOVE, you are going to get HURT. The more you love, the more you attach, the more you be hurt. Universal law. Unless you cease to love, you won't feel hurt at all. Be a monk.. All emotion are empty, no joy, no sadness, no grief and no happiness.
Make a choice, either you LOVE AND HURT or MUNDANE AND PEACE. It;s either this way or the other.
To enjoy your relationship, be emotional independent - don't invest all your joy to your gf only. Find other contentment in life and you wont be so lost when you lost her 1 day.
Follow this equation to achieve bliss :-
Be a 1 + 1 = 3 and not 1/2 + 1/2 = 1.
2007-01-24 04:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by wishingforpeace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if this doesnt bother your gf then what is the true problem? Yes it hurts but life hurts. You can only be who you are no more no less and dont ever forget it. there is nothing wrong with you being in touch with your emotions. lots of girls would kill for their boyfriend to be in touch with their emotions. You just have to try and be a little more positive and have a screw it attitude. it makes things go smoother and you will probably enjoy yourself more.
2007-01-24 03:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can kill emotion, just find the reason in do it. don't do things which hurts you, you're slowly killing yourself. find out what level of maturity of needs are you in. then do it from there. YOUR REASON MUST BE YOU HAVE TO SURVIVE AS A SPECIES.
hate is a form of reaction from an unknown fact. you are not emotionally attached to your gf. you're lacking self-confidence. tell yourself your good even alone. that you will survive to find another girl as needed. otherwise your gf will leave you soon. how can anybody love a man with nothing to offer instead just getting somthing from the girl.
2007-01-24 03:58:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time, but after enough heartbreaks, your emotion toward women will diminishes,and then women just become a companion that's easy to love but hard to fall in love with. Hopefully someone will fall in love with you before it's to late. Some women treat men like clothing, you were only fashionable for awhile. Some women don't realise that when a man truly falls in love with them, he will make many sacrifices to keep her happy and some that do know this will abuse it. This also applies for women who truly fall in love with a man. The thing is, hopefully the two will meet each other before they run out of emotion. Good Luck.
2007-01-24 04:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by D.B. Cooper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How does this hurt you? Does she not treat you the way you want to be treated? Does she have feel the same emotional attachment towards you? You have to look within yourself for happiness.
2007-01-24 03:54:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to kill your emotions is to kill yourself... Which I'm not advising you to do...
Life is good, no matter what you're feeling... Believe it is and that belief will help create the fact.
LIFE IS UNFAIR - KILL YOURSELF or GET OVER IT!!!!
2007-01-24 06:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by haloed_dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot kill emotions as they are a part of you. But you can help yourself to overcome certain ones.
Just talk to her about this issue, hopefully she understands.
2007-01-24 03:55:18 · answer #8 · answered by lynnthelycan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love...it hurts but you enjoyed it a lot and you know what they say...love is short and to forget it, take ages. Be patient and only time will make you stop have feelings for her. Dont talk to her to much, dont do teh things you too used to do.
2007-01-24 04:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never kill the emotion, cos it'll kill you. Control it is the best solution.
2007-01-24 03:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by maggotier 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why does it hurt? you can kill your emotions but it's like cutting out a part of your soul.
2007-01-24 03:58:24 · answer #11 · answered by lady_jane_az 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋