My boyfriend and i have been togher for about 2years. now one of his one night stands calss him telling his a dad. well the one night stand happened b4 us and i knew he might be dad when we started dating, but the trouble is he doent wanna know about the child. i do and if the mother is bad i want to take care of the child and i want to stand by his side. plz note he told me he wants to see the child but is afraid of what will happen to us. i told him that i love him and nothing will change that. and now i myself might be pregment and is afraid i will end up like that girl-no dad for my baby. SORRY 4 THE LONG STORY but i need help
2007-01-23 19:39:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your Boyfriend is a very lucky guy for having someone like you... I only hope that he knows this... Part of me thinks that he does because his reason for not seeing the child is what might happen to the both of you. Keep reassuring him that you will always be there no matter what... and that you love him no matter what. If (heaven forbid) he's a player and just throws your devotion out in the gutter... Thats the risk you have to take. These kinds of risks are always part of loving somone. If he's such an @$$hole then its not your loss. You'd be better off without him...
2007-01-23 20:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by raiden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wonder why she waited so long to let him know he was a dad. I think he is using your relationship as an excuse not to meet his child. He should first have a DNA test done, just to make sure. After that, he should help out with his child and be a part of their life. If he truly loves you and you are pregnant, he won't walk out on you. She was a one night thing and you have been together for two years. I don't think you have to worry as much about him walking out on you. There was nothing for him to walk out on with the other woman, they didn't have a relationship. If he is this child's father though, he needs to step up to the plate and be there.
2007-01-23 19:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you are a very nice woman. One thing worries me....if this baby is actually a baby....less than 2 years old...then this one-night stand must have happened since you and your boyfriend have been together. If this is the case then there's alot more questions you need to ask your boyfriend, then ask us on here when you have the full story.
2007-01-23 19:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by lou b 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you get props for wanting to take care of his kid from some otha chick. Remember he's a dude and guys handle things differently then us, i.e. he's running away from his problems. If he had a one night stand with that girl he dont care about her like he cares about you cuz he chose to be in a relationship with you so you most likely have nothin to worry about when it comes to the baby you are gonna have
2007-01-23 19:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by bigbosslady84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to know about that child as you said you better hope you're not pregnant, and if you aren't give him the boot, tell him to beat it, he's obviously not a real man and eventually you probably will get pregnant if you stay with him and he'll be gone
2007-01-23 19:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all did you say he could sleep with other girls? now consider your age. this is a mother of 3 teenagers talking here, who is open minded, but may ask hard questiones. are your parents divorced? I may be wrong, but I know what it's like to look for love in all the wrong places. sex is not love. men and women, boy's and girls view sex very differently! You have every right to be afraid if you are pregnant, tell me, how is he going to support 2 pregnant mothers? depending on your ages, the best job he can get that will pay well is Mcdonalds! please listen to me, I know you don't want to hear this, but for you to allow or for him to go ahead and sleep with someone else tells me that you don't feel to good about yourself. something I know first hand! who the heck does this guy/man think he is? no one in their right mind would volantarily agree for their man to sleep with someone else. I know all about peer pressure and all the lies guys and girls can say to eachother. I would have him take a dna test! go to the states attorney and you will know your answere! if you are pregnant by him and she is pregnant by him, head my warning, he's not for you, but you can get child support and if I were you no matter how much I loved him, I would not allow him to abandon his child or children! he can say what he wants as long as he thinks you'll buy into it. don't buy into to it you deserve better, you may not feel that way, but you do! I cannot believe that someone who loves their man/boy would except his b.s., he knows you will and he's counting on it, trust me on that one! Whatever has happened to you in the past, it will someday get better, I know, been there, done that! I would not let him off the hook and if you were my child, he would wish he behaved differently! ask my kids there on myspace under cheaphotdog, that's my son, he'll tell you and I used to work with runaways and was in law enf. but I was abused by my ex husband, so You have things to think about! is this dude really worth it, and if your being hurt, tell someone you can trust! I have given you my honest answere I'll be darned if some dude does me like that. yes it's lonly, but you'll make it! look inside your tough self, do you really want some dude calling all the shots? did you in your heart want this 4 some to happen? you do what's good for you!
you don't do what some dude tells you do because you want him to love you more. b.s..! if has a prob. tell him to talk to me and I will set him straight, been working with men most of my life and know the b.s. and lies. but it's up to you! be strong, say what you feel, don't say what he want's to hear! I hope I made you think think that your are worthy and deserve better!
natoprincess15 raised in the military and was a res.deputy
2007-01-23 20:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by fighterprincess15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess that your bf was planning to have a family before he knew about his child. if he loves u and is really worried about what will happent to both of u, he will be serious about yr pregnancy. If not, it's yr choice if u want to become a single mom.oh, and it's not yr responsibility to take care of his first child.
2007-01-23 19:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by disco ball 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that and maybe some prayers would help. Trust your heart and intuition but try not to get too emotional. Love is strong and trust i it. Real love comes from GOD!
2007-01-23 19:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the Guy that is getting a buncha kids with different girls needs help.
2007-01-23 19:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only element his dad could desire to do is record him as a run away. and have him picked up. Then they could have a courtroom date on your boyfriend to work out if he could desire to circulate living house or to Juvenal.
2016-11-26 22:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋