Am I the only one who feels this way?

Question

I've had alot of friends, both guy friends and a few girls, but the problem is I'd start to like them (as friends) until they would bother me with dating issues or cry about breaking up with someone. I hate to say it but break ups are NOTHING compared to funerals.
Nothing hurts worse than losing a loved one to death and having to say goodbye for good. I would get so mad at my friends because they would act like its the end of the world if their boyfriend/girlfriend dumped them. Well if that happened guess it wasnt meant to be eh? I just feel like I cant have any friends without them crushing on someone and bothering me with it, or crying to me about relationship problems. heh until they lose someone they loved and cared about to death, they shouldnt cry at all. Funerals are the most depressing things to deal with
compared to them, a breakup is just a blemish.

I've been through relationships, I've been hurt but I built up an immunity to it, heh I" went through hell yet still have faith.
and as for funeral, I lived with my grandparents and they both died within a year so yes in my mind nothing else hurts worse because they were like the parents I never had, but then again I am a very compassionate person and so I feel sadness like no other

eh I've had friends, and I tried to help but once they got together with their love interest, i was thrown aside as if i dont exist.
all of my friends have done this to me, so i pretty much gave up on making friends heh as I always say you are your own best friend and its so true. And yes i suffer from depression but not like i used to this is just a phase, i wasnt ready for my grandparents to go, let alone im all alone in this house, haunted by memories until i get my money and get the $$%$% out of here

Answer 1

You sound very bitter and angry at the world. lighten up a little - life's not that bad. :) whatevers going on in your life right now to make you feel this way, just remember....this too shall pass. :) x

Answer 2

yes, your friends are very fortunate as not to experience funerals yet. they act like break ups are the only thing that matters in this world.
you're more mature than them to feel such way.

by the way you think(can you clasp your hands together for me? is your right thumb above the left one? if so..), i can say that you're a practical person.

even so, yes, i think its really a bore to hear friends drone on about stuffs like break ups again and again too. maybe they just need someone to hold them close and keep them company and make them feel loved.

a little understanding goes a long way.. they need you there through their good times (when you're having fun, movies, etc) and through bad times (break ups, just feel like crying, etc).

don't you have a crush on anyone? you might feel the same too once you have and had someone.

though a strong girl like you might get over it quickly than others..some have trouble standing up after the fall. you're brave they're not enough. but you can't just live them behind.. if you really like your friends, be there for them through thick and thin.

i hope i helped. Good luck!

Answer 3

You tend to see things the way I do...but at 59 and a firefighter for 33 years, I see a lot of pain and grief everyday. I tend to see life as you do---BUT minimizing the pain and diminishing the troubles your friends have from day to day isn't really such a good idea either. They talk to you and others because it goes with being young and not having a lot of other things to talk about. Young love relationships are fragile and can be damaging to the psyche of inexperienced kids. A mature attitude and a willing listener will help them grow up and mature. If the day is bad for you, say so,,just say I am really not in the mood and walk away. You aren't always going to be in the mood for the people and their issues.You really are unique and special--don't throw that away ---try to remember to just be nice and tolerant. You will get your reward someday for being nice......thanks for being you

Answer 4

Your describing what sounds like 'anhedonia', which is a sign of depression. Your apparent proximity to death would explain this. You may need some releif. Try getting some regular exercise, and taking really good care of yourself. Talk to a professional if you can afford it. I've had to overcome the death of both of my parents and I know what you're talking about. Sometimes a good day is any day that a loved one hasn't died or been diagnosed with some horrible disease. But you know what? Life happens. Someday all of us will die. And if we love our family and freinds, we will want them to keep on enjoying life. So do what you would want your family and freinds to do, and start trying to enjoy all of it. Especially the little things, like a freind confiding in you.

Answer 5

Personally i dont think you have had friends then because even if you thought they were being juvenile or unenlightened or what ever you should still listen to them and care about their feelings. To some people getting dumped or breaking up eith a girlfriend or boyfriend is very painful. Until you are in their shoes you have no way of knowing just how painful their situation is and while you are entitled to your opinion i think it is juvenile and selfish of you to think that just because people havent been to a funeral they dont know pain. Being a true friend is just being there for your friends no matter what you think when they need you. i hope for future reference you try and be more understanding of others because you never know when one day you will need someone because your heart was broken. I'm not tryingto be rude i just hope that you get to experience true friendship.

Answer 6

darling you are a strong person - i hope you can come over this sad days - it is hard to loose your grandparents.
but you know you can make them happy if you pray for them

i am sure if they are alive they will not like you to be sad - life your life the best way you can to please them.
do not feel hurt if some friends act the way you said cause they did not had the same experience. yes for sure compared to you what you are facing is nothing important.

you know my grandmother died before 7 years she was very close to us although we used to see here only in summer time but still i feel like to cry for here cause she was so nice grandmother.

wish you all the best - remain with your friends that will make you feel better a bit "believe me better than staying home alone"

Answer 7

Yes, you are right. But when you love(!) someone you stick to him with all your heart and when you part because of some hurting reason than it's so sad and you ache all over and can't comunicate properly. That's also a loss. A loss of person from your life.

Don't be so catigoric!

Answer 8

I hope I say this how I mean for it to sound...

It's clear from your info that you've lost someone dear to you...so sorry for your loss!

OK (hope this comes out right)...in order to have a friend, you have to be a friend. To me, this means that sometimes you have to listen to your friends' problems -- even if you've had something more serious happen to you. At the time of their break-up (loss, to them), it is very serious to them, therefor, you should care, because they are your friend...

A friendship is a 2-way street--give & take...talk & listen.

I don't know how recently you lost your loved one, but this shouldn't keep you from forming other relationships/friendships. Seek professional help if this continues too long (I don't want that to sound mean...)

Again, I'm sorry for your loss - take care & good luck!

Answer 9

Sounds like you haven't been through many long relationships that ended in a rough breakup. To pretend that a breakup is not tough emotionally is to lie to yourself.

And what's the deal with funerals?? You make it sound like everyone in your family has died except you and you go to a funeral once/week.

I have been through three funerals in my life and they are always hard, of course...but to compare a funeral to a breakup is not really accurate.

Answer 10

AHH! i completly agree with you.

My friends go through a 'grieving process' everytime they lose another boyfriend, EVEN if they were the breakee.

Yet, when my grandfather died i got NO sympathy.