I once loved someone dearly, i may say with all my heart. I did everything for him, endured a lot of circumstances, i was even severely nad pitilessly beaten yet i endured everything because i loved him dearly, and we are now separated and he got married short after our separation, i even see him with his wife, i forgave him whole-heartedly but i don`t know what i`m feeling, it`s as though love meant another thing for me...i feel completely devasted in the inside, i even have no tears to cry,even if i don`t cry on the inside my heart is crying every second, i`m not angry nor frustrated, it`s as though i have a sadness which is like a poison and is killing me slowly daily....
2007-01-23 18:57:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really think you have a case of depression and you probably need to speak with someone about what has happened to you and how to cope.
Alternatives to Violence in your area has some trained professionals that can give you the proper care and can help with some of the mental things. Or, they can direct you in the right direction.
As for the depression, talk with a physician. They can help.
You have to talk to professionals, we can all give couch help, but I think you will benefit from a pro.
Good luck to you....
2007-01-23 19:01:48 · answer #1 · answered by teddybearloverus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me your a kind and easy going person.But be a fool for no one.And it's good that you're not angry even if you was it's called being a human being.It's a good thing he's not with you anymore.Let it go.It hurts in the begining I know been there but not with the abuse but in another way.It will get easier.He's moved on you do the same.If he got married shortly after you'll seperated then 9 times out of 10 he was dating her on the side and could have been treating you that way because he wanted out.
2007-01-24 03:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to find someone you can talk to about this in more detail and depth. You're broken because you gave everything and were cast off like an old shoe.
Take some time off from the relationship thing and get to know and value the real you. Maybe read Dr. Phil's, "Self Matters" and do some journaling on your thoughts.
2007-01-24 03:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CUTIE!!!!What are you doing???I can see how much you MUST have loved this person very much, and that he must have been everything that you had hoped for, but, alas, I see that you were treated very unkindly by this person, and that you went out of your way to not show that you were hurting, and that your love for him would somehow sway him to be a "better" person.
This is what they must mean by, with the greatest of respect to you cutie, "love is blind", and you must take this blindfold off, and get back into the dating game, so dont let this "poison" kill you.
Just take each day as it comes, just think...you are better than him, and you will survive this, so be strong girl.
2007-01-24 03:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to love yourself as much as you loved this other person. Happiness lies within yourself. Everyone at some point has been a sucker for love. But we learn that true love can only come from two people who first love themselves. How fulfilling is love when you are only constantly giving and always making the exception for someone elses happiness? Where are you being taken care of? Love is two people taking care of eachother, supporitng eachother, being able to carry the other when one faulters. What you had in you relationship was not love. It was service to another. You never allowed him an opportunity to love you, take care of you, comfort you, because you were always accommodating him. As much as people want TO BE loved, they also WANT TO love. And this is where the relationship failed. People are also attracted to strong, stable, confident people. They don't want to be somebody's emotional babysitter, and if you don't learn to love yourself this is how you are going to be percieved. Take pride in yourself, love yourself, don't put anyone else above you. You are responsible for the life you live or the life you fail to live.
2007-01-24 03:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by gg55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont look in the past.Life is too short for all this sadness.When he can start life again without regrects,why not you? Think he was not worth you love.Start life again.Try to find happiness.You smile and the world smiles with you,cry and you cry alone.
2007-01-24 03:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like it was a co-dependent relationship, and not love. There are lots of us nice guys out there who don't beat our women. If he beat you you are a lot better off without him. Get some grief counseling. You will cry, but you will live, and in living you will get over this, in getting over this, you are the winner.
2007-01-24 03:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by PartyTime 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey u need to find something u like doing and be good at it stop bringing urself down over someone who left u move on coz trust me he is not feeling what u feel the sooner u stop bringing urself down the better find someone friends go out do something for u and stop being for someone who does not return good luck
2007-01-24 03:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by vakere2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life never will be at stake,even it seemed to be.Throw away sadness and get engaged in some constructive wotrk.
2007-01-24 03:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by Joy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget Him! Any person who is abusive will get theirs in the end. Try Yahoo! Personals, and get yourself the man you deserve !! It is time to move on sister!!
2007-01-24 03:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋