How do I convince someone he may have a behavior disorder and he needs to go speak to a therapist. My ex may have borderline personality disorder. I have been trhu hell and back with him, his behavior split us up, and now he doesn't even talk to me. I couldn't accpet how he could be so messed up, but after six months of therapy myself because of the break up, I did my research and realize this is the problem. I know I cant diagnose it and I am not a professional, but he had gone thru serious threats of suicide, hitting himself because he hated himself, treating me horribly after he ended our relationship, being manipualtive. He hurt me so much, I didn;t want him back, but I cared about him enough to want to know how he can do this to me. What should I do. He does not answer my calls now, he deletes my emails. and he is the one who hurt me. I was so angry at him for being this way, but now I feel I may know why after all this time.
2007-01-23 18:56:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
What a wonderful caring person you are ! I am sure your ex never intended to cause you any pain - he probably hates himself for doing so. He is obviously very unhappy and needs help. Does he have any family member that you could possibly contact in confidence, you would have to explain everything to them in detail, maybe they could then try to assist him in getting the help he so desperately needs. I feel very sad for this guy as he has obviously lost a very caring and loving lady. Good luck in your quest.
2007-01-23 21:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to your therapist about it, sounds like you're still co-dependent on this guy. It will be much healthier for you in the long run to just move on. If you keep trying to contact him then he will continue to have the upper hand in your non-relationship. By hanging up on you he's telling you to go away. Regarding emails, how would you know if he's deleting them or just not answering them. Either way you have to let it go otherwise you'll end up looking like some pathetic ex-girlfriend whose doing whatever she can to cling to an unhealthy relationship. Be strong and go about your new life without him.
2007-01-24 03:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by Industry_Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel but the truth is your looking for another reason to hang on to him. This is just something you want to believe and want to talk to him about just to talk to him. I know that it is possible to still love someone that hurt you and treated you badly and even though you may truly believe that he has a problem it's not worth the effort.
I have gone through many break ups where I do absolutly anything to hold on to someone or to get them to talk to me. This guy isn't worth your time or energy. If he really has a problem than he needs to be the one to get help. It's really hard but you just need to let go. Good luck girl
2007-01-24 03:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by dalbana5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on, hes your ex, he doesnt care about you. If the therapy you went trhough had worked you wouldnt even be asking this question you would be dating someone else since this guy is your EX. If he doesnt want help its not your problem.
2007-01-24 03:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by searay092003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your X.
You are not responsible for him.
It is time to stop calling and stop making it your job to fix things.
You know why you had problems with him. It will hurt you deeply. But you will surrive. Please make peace with this and move on.
The important thing is that you got out alive and you can make a new life for yourself.
Be strong
2007-01-24 03:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in contact with his parents and tell them the situation tell them all the things he has done in the past and that he needs treatment whether he refuses it or not.
2007-01-24 03:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make a donkey drink when he's not thirsty. Think ahead. In five years from now, that what worries you now will be but a remote memory.
2007-01-24 03:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him talk it out leave him a message tell him you are sorry you where wrong not him
2007-01-24 02:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by Snoopy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋