Here's the situation, we are currently seperated, and she has brought up the question of whether or not its ok to see other people..At this point I dont even know if we have a future together, so I'm not sure what to say... She said someone has already asked her out, and I didnt act like it bothered me, but its killing me inside.....Would I be greedy to say no, or should I just swallow the pain and let her move on with her life? She said she would leave it up to me and I dont know what to do...I love her alot, but we just cant be together, its complicated, but I would do anything for her, and the thought of another guy makes my blood boil...please help!
2007-01-23 18:50:26 · 15 answers · asked by nirvana19791979 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
FIGHT FOR HER! that is what she wants
2007-01-23 19:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by shawclint 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are Married, Then do yourself a favor tape record a conversation and video her dates .this only protects you should you decide to divorce. Plus your now holding the cards.. I ts hard to let go of someone you love but think of yourself(if you dont no one else will) is this the type of life you want, If the relationship does not have a solid foundation I can Garantee sooner or later it will fall. Rekindle what ya lost or if she still wants to see other then pee on the rekindling..Move on it better to hurt for a short time that a lifetime Wish you the very best
2007-01-24 03:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are only newly separated, I would say that you both are still under obligation to your committment of marriage. People separate, so that they can re-evaluate their marriage separately, to hopefully repair their marriage. If this is the case with you, and there is still the potential of getting back together, than I wouldn't encourage a new dose of issues to compound an already struggling relationship. You would completely be defeating your purpose. With this said, perhaps it may be easier for you now to make a decision.
2007-01-24 05:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by gg55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her so much why dont you get counselling? Or does she not want it? Either way- i would tell her how you feel- it bothers you. This way you dont look back and regret it. Its not being greedy... she is your wife! I totally understand that it would make your blood boil. Sounds like you want it to work... and her asking you how u feel kinda sounds like she still cares too...hmmm. Not sure- Id love to ask you questions. Well- try to get counseling... if she's not willing- nothin u can do but let her go.
Good luck to you!
2007-01-24 03:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by skygirlchristine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you truly feel because she may actually be wanting you to say no that you would rather she not until the 2 of you decide once and for all to end the relationship. However...if you do divorce...you have to be prepared to let her go and you move on with your life
2007-01-24 03:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
normally i would say if you love her and want her back then have her not sleep with someone else. but you've just said for reasons that are complicated you can't be together again. So if this is the case. you have to set her free. you can't say no to her for ever. she will be thinking if you say no that you still care for her and want her back. and if you know in your heart that won't happen then asking her not to sleep with anyone else ever is not right.
I sense she still caress and loves you too by your words when she said she will leave this up to you.
2007-01-24 03:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to have to make up your mind as to whether or not you and your wife have a future together. if you all are married but seperated and she is asking you if it is okay to see someone else suggests to me that she is ready to move on. the two of you need to sit down and have a serious discussion about you all's future as husband and wife. she may decide to see someone else and completely block you out, and then you are reaaly going to be hurt. so please talk to your wife and i really hope that she changes her mind and i hope that you and your wife will reconcile and get back together. good luck.
2007-01-24 03:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by vlo30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think you two need to get together and talk through some issues...why punish yourself if things are not gonna work out...what if someone were to approach you for a date..would you decline.....i dont think either of yall are doing a service to eachother by not working things out or moving on....maybe by her going on a date with another man she will see what she has the potiential of losing by not staying with you...the opposite could happen but still before it becomes a major issue please talk it through..get a mediator...councelor...but good luck in whatever you decide
2007-01-24 03:06:35 · answer #8 · answered by michele m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I dont think I would want my husband to see other people especially if we are still married. If you dont think you have a future together I would tell her it was actually up to her. Maybe you should start looking for other people. Time heals
2007-01-24 03:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by Dakota S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't act like it's not bothering you. Tell her exactly how you feel just like you did in your question here. No matter what she ends up doing, you'll at least feel better.
2007-01-24 03:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you tell her. Marriage is forever, bad or good right or wrong. Commuication is the best. TALK TO HER, TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL, that you would rather work on your marriage
2007-01-24 08:49:19 · answer #11 · answered by sbratt2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋