I met my husband about 13 years ago. I found out after being w/him (as a boyfrined) for several years that he had cheated on me with one of my friends. It took time, but I forgave him because I thought he was sincerely sorry. We got back together & a few years later I became pregnant. Just after our daughter was born I found out he had cheated on me again while I was pregnant. Again, for the sake of the children, I forgave him & moved back in. Recently he told me he had met somebody & had an inapropriate relationship (not sex) with her & that it was because I didn't make him feel special & loved (jeez I wonder why). We were in the process of a divorce but he promised me that if I tried to be a better wife he would never do it again. I foolishly believed him & now I suspect he is cheating again with one of my friends who happens to be his friends wife. I am very depressed & need to talk. Are there free counseling servces on line
2007-01-23 18:45:07 · 12 answers · asked by speekup2002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I didn't even read the other answers. I went through the same thing. Everything is your fault. He only did what he did , because you didn't do this or that. B.S. His best defense is an offense. You are depressed!. Call any counseling service and they will recommend someone to you that will charge you what you can afford. Call Social Services for help.
As they say " you need to get your grove back on" Call your mom and ask if she will give you money to get your hair done, (or borrow the money from a friend)
2007-01-23 19:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Pat C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can find a few online but you really need to find someone face to face. It would help you out a great deal.
Im on your side but please stop this right now. "for the sake of the children" OH MY GOD!!
How is that ever a good thing.? Staying with someone that has NO RESPECT for you or for your children or for your marrige.
If you were a better wife.?? again, OH MY GOD!!
Sex, no sex, inappropriate relationship, It is CHEATING!!
Can you make him leave or do you have a place, safe place, that you can take the kids and you to.? Then GO, do not pass go do not collect 200$. Leave now.!!
You and your children do not need this is your life.
Face to face cousling would be better.
Good Luck.
2007-01-23 18:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your situation and hope and pray that it will get better. The best counsel I have had is Dr. Phil. And one of his saying about people and behavior is "the best predictor of future behavior, is past behavior" Your husband is not going to change for you, I'm sorry. If he was really working on this relationship with you, he would have gone to counseling himself and would be working to make himself a better husband and father. If he decide not to go to counseling, I would suggest to you that you go for your sake and your child's sake. You should not deprive your child 100% of her mother. Please get help for you, so that your child will be less effected by whats going on, I guarantee they can sense something is wrong and for them to feel safe is one of the most important things. I hope this helps and if you need to talk I will try and help. As far a free counseling services on line, there may be some kind of counseling through his work or yours, but you will have to do the searching. Good luck and God Bless.
P.S. -- Try your church or a church that you may trust or have visited before. They are usually free and can sometimes help with free counseling.
2007-01-23 18:59:28 · answer #3 · answered by 1TON 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG That sounds like my husband! I hate to say it, but he will never change no matter how hard you try to be the loving wife he says he won't cheat on. It's all him, there is nothing wrong with you. He is a pig and cheaters never stop. He is just trying to turn this on you and in the end it will just have hurt you more. Spare yourself and your children the pain and cut him off now.
2007-01-23 19:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by sandra j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow- im so sorry. I think he has your self esteem soooo low- you dont know whats right or wrong. I hope you know how wrong this is though.. and i think you do because you want help. Good for you- dont give up and be strong. You deserve so much more than that! Im not sure about free services- but do a google search- or read books and talk to family and friends- get a support system. PLEASE dont let this guy ruin your hapiness.... ! Good luck.... xo :)
2007-01-23 18:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by skygirlchristine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,, Not only is he aless than a desirable husband, but to blame you for his infadelity. NO BAD Deal. Find out for sure ,this will ease your mind if hes not , however if he is then. You can Blister his but in Court. Radio shack sells telephone recording devices aka (bugs) set it on slow speed and utilize the vaf(voice activation feature... advise if I can Be of assistance .Every one needs to be loved. But men that love ***they use the head w/ no brain??
2007-01-23 18:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a jerk, but you love him for it. Like most women today. You love liars, cheaters, abusers and cowards. It's all wired into women subconcious to love men like that. No amount of counseling going to help. Even if you divorce him, the next man in your life will be exactly like him. Don't blame yourself, him or society. It's the way how women unconcious mind work
2007-01-23 18:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to BITE the bullet and leave his ***. Their is plenty of good men who will not cheat on you. Move on it will catch up to him.
2007-01-23 18:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by shawclint 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a big cheater,and you have always given in. Hats off to you.
2007-01-23 18:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find many who have been there and done that here:
http://www.network54.com/Index/32374
Please go there and seek support. They will help you.
2007-01-23 18:50:17 · answer #10 · answered by TRAC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋