how to be good in interpersonal communication?

Answer 1

Show interest in what the other person has to say. Do not invade his/her private space (keep 1.5meter-70cm distance, depending on your relationship with them).

Leaning your head a bit to one side, as well as nodding is a hint that you want to hear what the other person has to say, and this is a good start towards a fruitful interaction.

Use your hands and body to gesture and emphase certain aspects of your speech. Careful though, because if the gestures are too aggressive or just too much, the person you interact with might get distracted from what you are actually saying.

Keep eye contact. If your eyes are wandering, the other might think that you are not paying attention, and thinking of something else. Don't fixate them though. Looking at the other person too intensively might make them nervous and unable to concentrate.

Don't cross your arms or legs. If the person you're talking to does this, do something to make them change this position, by offering them a pen to hold, this will force them not to cross their arms. Crossing your arms or legs acts as a barrier to how much information we can retain, this is why it's a good idea when you study for example, to avoid doing this.

Don't tap your feet, fingers, your pen or other similar gestures.

Lean forward, to show that you are involved in the communication. Leaning back on the chair, and having a relaxed position can lead others to think that you are too uninvolved.

Although *what you say* is very important, *how you say it* is just as important, and definitely shouldn't be ignored. The advices above refer mostly to non-verbal communication, and the way it can be used to improve interaction between individuals. Hope it helps.

Answer 2

First, don't use words like interpersonal.
Now, the best way to get a good conversation going is to ask the other person things about themself. People love to talk about themself and you are a good listener they will think you are a cool person to talk to.

Answer 3

Being a good listener is one of the basics.