how to raise a man's low self esteem?

Question

i love him more than everything, and he loves me very much. But he isn't happy, thinking that he is not good enough for me. (he's much older). please, help.

Answer 1

encourage him to do things he is good at. give him tons and tons of positive attention when you see him doing things to improve himself. say specific things like "I love it when you..." or "it makes me happy when i see you..."

first of all, he has to build up his own self-esteem, no one can do that for him.

and second, if you dote on him and give him tons of positive attention when he acts like he's down in the dumps and says "i'm not good enough for you," then you're just reinforcing his behavior. like, if he knows that saying "i'm not good enough" is a good way of getting you to cuddle him or sleep with him, then he'll probably keep on saying that, consciously aware of it or not.

Answer 2

This is something that guys always think, and hope, that a woman will do for them. Unfortunately only a man can raise his self-esteem, and he can only do it himself.

The best you can do is be a help-mate. Be one. Let him know that you're there, that you're not nagging or judgemental, that you respect him and what he's dealing with, and that you believe he can overcome it like the true warrior and great man you believe he is.

After that, geez, I guess you'll need to talk to Dr. Laura.....

Answer 3

Most importantly, you love him just the way he is. It's hard to change someone, unless he has the will to do so. If he intents do somthing about it, below are the tips for him.

Take steps to raise your self-esteem and feel better about who you are.

Instructions
•STEP 1: Take stock of your strengths. Review what you are good at and tasks you excel at.
•STEP 2: Think of things you can do or projects you can undertake that use and develop these strengths.
•STEP 3: Reflect honestly on your weaknesses - but instead of dwelling on how lazy, mean, disorganized or passive you are, commit to change. Brainstorm specific things you can do to overcome the flaws you believe you have.
•STEP 4: Survey your environment. Is a friend, family member or co-worker criticizing you unjustly? Distance yourself from this person or resolve not to let his or her opinion affect you.
•STEP 5: Act confidently. People will sense your self-confidence and respond positively to you, strengthening your image and self-image all at once.
Tips & Warnings
•The key to positive self-esteem is to remember that you have control over your situation: When feeling glum about a character flaw, remind yourself that you can take action to change yourself and shape your future.
•Try not to base judgments of yourself on others' perceptions, which can be fickle.

Answer 4

He may be trying to weasel his way out of the relationship, OR he really is self loathing. If you love him, tell him it makes you sad when he says he's not good enough for you. See what his reaction is.
If he is trying to weasel out, he'll keep making excuses. If he is really just having low self esteem, try to assure him he is good enough for you. If he keeps it up, dump him, because he'll drive you crazy.

Answer 5

He may be old but he still is very sensitive with the surrounding including you.
You may have said the wrong words, made a wrong decision or worst still talk about a younger active person/s. Such behaviour may affect him greatly.
Be sensitive to his needs and avoid talking about things that a younger person does. Always reassure him that you are there and that you care and that he is the most important person in your life

Good Luck

Answer 6

MAke sure to compliment him every chance you get. You may think it sounds cheesy but he will enjoy it, no matter what he says. And make sure to compliment his penis, no joking. Guys take that part of the body very seriously.

Answer 7

He needs a little counselling from you.Make him feel important,superior,and boost up his confidence level.

Answer 8

stop looking at young guys when you guys go out...geez...