I have a best friend. I cared and loved for her a lot.
We went through so many obstacles together.
We had misunderstandings but we managed to work it out.
Recently, she became so angry with me and refused to tell me the reasons why. Instead, she went off with another girl.
What should I do? I don't want to lose her.
Can anyone tell me the solution to this? Please make it a peaceful and effective one. Thanks.
2007-01-23 18:32:00 · 12 answers · asked by FSC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm thinking about her anger, refusal to communicate and resolve, going off with someone else. I think she is the one owning this problem not you. You can't control her, you can only control your reaction to her. I would somehow tell her (write her) and let her know that your friendship is important to you. You are sorry if you have done something to upset her but it sure wasn't intentional. Tell her you want to know what it was she got upset about and that when she's ready to talk about it you'll be there to listen. (Then let her talk... don't interrupt.... don't defend yourself, let her get it all out). That's about all you can do. Please find more friends. Join a club or group or church group or something.
2007-01-23 18:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, she's actually attempting very not person-friendly to allow you to keep in mind that that is actual over. it is totally unusual that her behaviour would replace clone of that. perhaps her father and mom have something to do with it, because it become purely days after she got here lower back from holiday. they'd have informed her something and he or she's now doing her perfect to ignore about you. also, she will be on drugs and also you under no circumstances observed and with the impact of her associates, then she's lost contact with actuality. nonetheless, the first reason would make more suitable experience. a minimum of in the experience that they did no longer have a component in it, actually they are going to understand what's happening, specifically if she's nonetheless living at homestead. i'd say keep asking because on the properly of the day, you may't purely walk remote from a three 12 months relationship with someone with out understanding exaclty what got here about. tell her that till you recognize you at the prompt are not leaving her by myself, because her honesty is the least you deserve so that you'll be able to both placed her particularly in the back of you or attempt to keep your relationship..
2016-10-16 00:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having this kind of problem too.
I don't know what I did that make my friend angry with me, and we're both adult, so I can't understand why she wouldn't talk to me. I tried to call her so many times, she just won't pick up. The worst is she pretend she's not angry with me but she treats me cold. Reading all the answers here, I understand that I've done what I could. I should give her space. I think she's having a problem and somehow she can't talk it out with me.
It sadden me, someone who treasure friendship to have this problem but I learned not to expect too much from my friends. I can't expect her to always want to be my friend, to always want to fight for it to work. I have to except that this is what she wants now, maybe later if she's ready to befriended me again, then she'll talk to me. Meanwhile, I should see this as a sign for me to get new friends and treasure my other friends. Not that I've given up on this one, but forcing her now will only make things worse. I hope you will get back with your friend again, I know how hard it is when this happend.
2007-01-23 19:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by Akai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reach out to her and put the ball in her court. If you must, write her a letter/short note. True grown up mature friends WILL talk about it. If the best friend wants to throw a childlike tantrum, then she's not worth having as a friend.
2007-01-23 18:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by TRAC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to ask her what is the reason for her anger, because you do not know of any reason that you could have caused it, if she tells you think about what she says and answer her truthfully, you may have done some thing and not even been aware of it to you it may be a small silly thing , but to her it is big enough to cause this problem
2007-01-23 18:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the passive-aggressive little twit. If you've got to grovel before this little self-anointed Princess in order to keep her as a friend, she's not worth it.
2007-01-23 18:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by Guernica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you push at finding out what is wrong she will push you away. My suggestion is to give her space but make sure she knows your always there for her to talk to openly. Other then that there isn't much to do.
2007-01-23 18:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by tiger_shal77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first let know y she is doin all this.i think she must be havin some problem.understand her problem n dont force her 2 tell her problem.if she is ur bstfrnd thn she will tell u.
2nd reason may be bcoz of u she is angry.find out the problem.
2007-01-23 18:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by himani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone,let her anger cool down.Then talk to her.If you talk to her while she is angry,it may make things worse.
2007-01-23 18:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the whys, ask her can she forgive whatever, and if she can't, forgive her and keep living.
2007-01-23 18:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by shepherdgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋