Has ur husband ever told u little white lies and kept stuff from you before(not anything to do with u) and have u made him promise not to do it again but does it again and if yes what have u done about it
2007-01-23 18:02:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A lie is a lie! If you're calling it a "little white" lie it must not be too awful. Maybe you should just accept the fact that it will be done even if you ask that it not be done. Just leave it alone and look the other way or confront him and ask why he feels he must do this. Maybe he feels you are trying to control him or act like his mother telling him what he can or can not do. Ask him not to do it (for you) telling him not to just makes some guys want it more. Like the forbidden fruit.
2007-01-23 18:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by DB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess, he blames you for it too......Mine has done it over and over again. It almost always involves other women. I have fallen for it for 13 years now and after the last time he promised it was really nothing and that it would never happen again. He always blames me too. It is my fault he lied or cheated because I would get mad if he told me EVERYTHING or if he told me the truth....or I don't have sex with him enough or I don't make him feel loved enough so he had to find it elsewhere. I believed this crap too.....why, because I was not happy with him so I didn't have sex with him as much as he would have liked. And, when we did have sex, I was not really into it because my mind was on the fact that he had just been somewhere or done something that he neglected to tell me about. Anyhow, this last time I made a decision to try harder in our relationship. I treated him very kindly, we had sex almost whenever he wanted to and I made sure it was passionate and enjoyable for him. IT DID NOT MATTER...... I just found out tonight that he has been cheating on me again and lying to me about money and all kinds of stuff. He is a compulsive cheater and liar and no matter what I do he will not stop. Not even the fact that he is going to lose his family (we have 2 kids) has stopped him. I really really believed that the last time was the last time. No matter what he says to you, do not believe him. He is going to continue to hurt you and lie to you. He needs help and I bet you are not qualified to give it to him. I know I am not. Poor Kids. It is time to leave and believe me, you will be better off in the end if you NEVER look back. No matter what he says. I wish I would have gotten that advise many many waisted years ago. I could just die right now and I would not care. Do not put yourself in that position. You have a choice to make and I hope that you make the right one.
2007-01-23 18:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by speekup2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is: Don't sweat the small stuff so much. If he's told you a little white lie that hasn't harmed you in any way, why worry so much? It seems to me like he's keeping mildly annoying little facts from you because he's sensed that you're a little anxious and prone to worry, and doesn't want to trouble you.
Being a wife does not mean that you get a telepathic link to your husband's mind. He is a separate individual, not a marionette on strings. The longer you're married, the more you will notice yourself just not bothering each other with little, stupid, negative things.
For example: You overhear some casual acquaintance making a negative comment about your husband at a party. A young wife will immediately rush to defend her husband's honor, and then tell him that someone said something disrespectful about him.
Truthfully, the best thing to do would be to ignore it, calmly walk away, and not even trouble your man with it. Why bother?
Husbands and wives do NOT need to know every little thing about each other. The longer you're married, the more you'll start to weigh the importance of your battles. Is it worth demanding to know if the first woman he slept with was better than you? No. Is it worth demanding to know if his mother's chicken soup is better than yours? No.
Choose your battles carefully. Why bitterly antagonize the man you love over something that's ultimately trivial? Every little omission or softening of the truth is not a bitter betrayal, so don't treat it as such.
2007-01-23 18:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by Guernica 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband has in the past done the "omission" thing. Left information out that might upset me. I told him I'd rather hear it all and deal with it than deal with it anyway on top of his omission. He hasn't done that in a very long time. He's pretty honest.
2007-01-23 18:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by sheepinarowboat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, harmless. Everybody tells lies.
2007-01-24 00:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by sbratt2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. I divorced him. This is not the only reason, but a big contributor to the divorce. Honesty is the most important value to me.
2007-01-23 18:09:18 · answer #6 · answered by Emily R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋