i wanna go on birth control...?

Question

i just turned 16, and yea im still a virgin, but barely, and i mean barely. my mom brought up a few times "youre going on BC" after i went to a party w/ a few guys, but we never made it there

ive never been to the gyno and im scared. plus i dont know how to ask my mom. im afraid if i bring it up on my own, she`ll have a different reaction than when she told me i was going on it.

can someone help. do/did u have the same problem as me?

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Answer 1

It will definitely be awkward telling your mom, but at least you are being mature about it. Let her know that you feel you are getting older and want to be prepared just in case. She'll have to have some respect for that even though she sees her baby growing up. Pelvic exams are uncomfortable and embarrassing... just remember that at the end of the gyno's day, he or she will not remember you... they see plenty of "down there's" all day long. Its what they do for a living for goodness sakes!! Just be safe and don't screw up your teenage years because you have to stay home and take care of a baby.

Answer 2

You're way too young to be having sex. If you're scared of the gyno, you should be scared of sex too (same concept).

If you insist on carrying through with this madness, the pill is also helpful for things other than bc -- regulates irregular periods, helps with massive cramping or headaches, and some help clear up acne-prone skin. Start complaining of massive cramps and then say you heard that some pills can help with this. Then ask if she will go with you to the doctor to discuss the issue.

For the people suggesting that if you go to the doctor on your own your mother doesn't have the right to know... this is NOT TRUE in most states. In fact, in many states the doctor will need parental permission to give you ANY prescription. IMO, this is a good thing.

Answer 3

If you want to get the pill and you are afraid to talk to your mom about sex then maybe you should reconsider. You shouldn't do something you can't talk about.

If you are determined however, you should go to planned parenthood, they can help you and your mom won't know. Or you can go with the old faithful condom and or film or foam. You really should consider a back up method anyway and something that prevents STD's. You may know your guy well but you need to remember that you are having sex with everyone he has had sex with, you have no way of knowing that he used proper protection, no matter what he tells you.

GYN appointments are not fun but they are a necessity in a woman's life. Most docs don't take to long to get it over and you only have to go once a year. Unless you have a lot of female problems I hear is doesn't hurt either (wouldn't know my insides are a wreck).

Answer 4

Part of growing up is being open and honest with your parents, esp your mother. If you come to her, she may be a little shocked but she will be happy, instead of having you preg. Tell her that just because you are on bc, you know that its not a free ticket to go out and have sex all the time. tell her you are saving yourself for that special one you love. And that you want to be prepaid in case spmething happens. You also need to remeber all of this! When you get on BC it is not a free for all to go out and have sex all the time. Just because you are on birthcontrol does not mean you will not get pre. Its only 97% safe. I have 1 baby to prove that BC does not work all the time. Plus if you ever do have sex always use a condom. You can get std's or hiv. Some std's you will have the rest of your life, they never go away. I never went on the pill until I was 18 and I went to the free clinic. I got preg when I was 19 AND I was on the pill. I never talked to my mother about it until I got preg BUT I had my own appartment and I had a full time job and I later married my then bf that got me preg. We have now been married for 5 years and we have 2 kids. But not all cases end like that.

Answer 5

Geez... a lot of people are throwing out myths and such here! First of all, if you want to go on birth control it is up to you to be responsible and brave enough to talk to your mom about it. Chances are she will happy to know you are on it, because that way if you chose to have sex there is less of a chance of getting pregnant.

As for all of the myths on here!
-birth control CAN cause weight gain. It is common to gain 15 lbs or so, but it really depends on how your body reacts. If you do start to gain weight you can switch to a different type which might suit you better
-birth control can cause blood clots and strokes. If you smoke your chances are increased. This is a very low risk, but a risk nonetheless
-birth control is no replacement for condoms. The last thing you want is to come home and find out you have herpes or HIV.
-people who come off birth control can have problems getting pregnant for the first year, but almost every woman is able to have a child after that if they so wish.

As for going to the gyno, it is a natural part of being a healthy woman. It IS scary the first time, but ask your mom to talk to you about what happens. Also, gyno's are smart. They can tell you are nervous and will tell you about everything they are doing and try to relax you in every way.

When I told my mum I wanted to go on the pill I told her it was because my period was irregular and such. It was a semi-true excuse. I have to say that besides the fact I have a decreased risk of getting pregnant, it is nice to know that your period will come within the same 2 days every month.

Good luck!

Answer 6

If you are just barely still a virgin, then it is not a far step to have sex. It is much better to be protected from unwanted pregnancy than to suddenly find yourself pregnant and having your life totally change. I would urge you to find a female gynecologist, or perhaps your local health department does exams and provides birth control. Your mom sounds like she is concerned for your welfare, and would be helpful. There are good health providers out there that can help put you at ease.
Take care. You sound like you are trying to use good judgement.

Answer 7

ok, no reason to be scared- it is not a scary thing. If you feel you "need" birth control--- are you seeing a special guy and planning on having sex, then I would suggest that you talk to your mom about it-- you are 16 and of legal age to go to the free clinics and get it yourself however, do you really want to start those hormones in your body at such an early age if you really don't need to? If you are not in a relationship that you will be tempted to have sex yet- I say you wait it out until you are ready--- there are condoms and are 98 percent effective and if you follow your period-- it is the 10 days before your period that you are most fertile--- you can look it up online and abstain during those times. Birth control has SOOO many side effects-- and let me share this with you-- my daughter was 12 and now 26, she HAD to go on birth control for uncontrollable ovarian cysts and was on it for 14 years--- she didn't need for sexual contraception- and is now planning on getting married and found out that she has polycystic ovarian syndrome--- and it may cause her to NEVER HAVE CHILDREN-- something that should've been picked up all those years they were throwing birth control pills at her instead of reviewing her ovaries.......so really, really think about it.... there are a lot of side effects that do not go away- weight gain, is one. good luck to you in whatever you decide.

Answer 8

Just go to Planned Parenthood on your own and you don't need to tell your mom! Yea, I had the same problem and ended up having an abortion. Hell of a way to learn maturity and responsibility, but I guess I needed the crash course!

Oh, by the way, I'm pratically married out of my teens and I still don't talk to my mom about sex. Some things are just not the parents business! I really hate that "If you can't tell your mom then you're not ready" crap.

Answer 9

Why don't you tell her that you would like to try birth control to lessen the amount of days of your period. Tell her that they are painful and think this will help based on what you saw on TV. Also, some pills helps with acne too. If you still don't want to ask go to planned parenthood by yourself and get it yourself. I am proud of you...you are stepping up to the plate and being a responsible young woman.

Answer 10

Well, if you can get transportation to the doc's office, he/she can give you birth control, and your mother will have no legal right to know unless you tell her. it's called doctor/patient priveledge, and it is just for these occasions.(well, not really, but it works, doesn't it?!) Now if you just want to be open with your mom about it and tell her that you want birth control, you'll have to approach her like a young woman (i can't believe i just used that term, i hate it!), and you have to sit her down and talk to her. You might start by saying "ma, i don't want you to get all worked up over this, okay..." that usually works. And your mom might surprise you. She might respect the fact that you want to be responsible rather than take risks. But you'll never know until you try it!