I can be romantic, but I have long hated the pressure of Valentine's Day. Gotta buy cards, flowers, candy, etc., not out of individual choice but a sense of obligation and "herd mentality" as everyone is doing it. Anyone else?
2007-01-23 17:58:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
Hell yes it ruins things!!!!!!! Yes...the corporations obligate you into buying their worthless crap. If you don't, you are made to feel inadequate or like you are letting the other person down. I am a woman who has decided that I will have no more of this bull****!!!! I told my fiance that I'm not giving him anything, and I don't want him to get me anything either! Since when did I need corporate America to tell me when and how to show my love for someone? How does buying someone a crappy $12.99 chocolate heart or some stupid teddy bear really show love when you're basically obligated to do it? AND WHAT'S UP WITH VALENTINES PRESENTS FOR EVERYBODY NOW- NOT JUST YOUR LOVER? Now, you're also obligated to get a Valentine present for your kids, your co-workers, friends...ect!!!!! It's not freakin Christmas! (Don't EVEN get me started on Christmas!) I think you should express this point to your girlfriend- maybe you should have a non-consumer Valentines day...do something romantic like have a candlelight dinner at home or give eachother massages instead of buying "stuff" that really has no meaning because it's just worthless crap!
2007-01-23 20:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does put pressure on a couple and it's as if gifts are expected. I like flowers just as much as the next woman but if it's out of obligation because it's "valentine's day", then that's ok, I'll take the cash instead - just kidding!! Someone here said that it's more romantic when you don't expect something like flowers at work for no reason, or a nice evening out - I like that better. My bf asked what I wanted to do for valentine's day and I jokingly said let's go to the bar, have some drinks, pupus and watch ESPN...you guys should've seen that huge smile on his face...it was too funny!!
2007-01-24 06:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by mauinei34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first valentines with my then bf who is now my husband I got flowers sent to work and all, but now it's not a big deal for me. I think last year as a present I picked something out on ebay and had him buy it for me. I think flowers sent on an un-special day are better than v-day. Just because it's not really that special, it's expected. I don't even like going to dinner, you have to wait 3 1/2 hours. And don't think I'm an old fart, I'm 25. I think I would rather do the getaway thing when no one else is "getting away". Like in the middle of january, renting a ski cabin or something. I agree with the herd thing, it's totally a commercially based "holiday" using women as their biggest (and free) advertisers.
2007-01-23 18:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by #1 Buckeye Fan!!!! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Valentine's Day can totally break a relationship. It takes the spontenaity out (which is the most romantic part of being romantic) and forces you to prove your love by how well you can pick out a gift. If you don't do enough, then feelings get hurt. However, in a new relationship, if you do too much then the person can feel smothered. My husband and I made a pact about 10 years ago that we would do a card and dinner. That is all we are allowed to do because Valentine's Day is too much pressure.
2007-01-23 18:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by bashnick 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not really no. Truthfully, I'd be happy just spending the day with my signifcant other watching movies, playing video games, just vegging out. haha It's not really an obligation to me. We'd both be happy just being together, without any cards, flowers, candy and what not. Although those things are nice to recieve on Valentine's Day, I don't really feel it's required or obligated....just being able to have someone special to share Valentine's Day with is nice enough.
2007-01-24 01:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by L@uren87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it. You'll regret it otherwise. Just make sure it isn't awkward after. If he doesn't like you back then just talk to him about it as he'll already know. If he does like you back then bingo. I had the same problem recently except I kind of love the girl not just a crush. We talked about it and remind friends as she wasn't ready for anything. If anything we are now kind of closer as friends which is actually really good. You'll regret it if you don't go for it. Good luck.
2016-05-24 03:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by Pauline 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I belive that Valentines day is just a day for the store to make more money. But In some ways its still a sweet thing to get is a Valentine from some one you feel the same way about.
2007-01-23 18:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow a man that knows what women like for Valentines.Cards,flowers,candy,all the normal things.I can say that you did have the choice to buy the items,and being bit by cupid at that time ,you chose to do so.So let history repeat itself...Continue being the man of her dreams...Happy Valentines......
2007-01-24 02:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. This is a romantic day where you and you lover suppose to show your love for one another. Treat one another, show them just as much as you care. The only way that it can be ruined is if there is another person involved or you do not go alone with your partner. But nothing is suppose to be ruined that evening.
2007-01-23 23:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by ritza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True. I don't even like getting flowers on Valentines because it is a waste of money and not much of a surprise. I think it was fun when I had just met someone and waited to see if he sent me flowers or something (umm....usually didn't pan out). But now I think it is just a big commercialized trick to get money out of our pockets. That being said, if my fiance does not get me anything I am going to kick his ***. :)
2007-01-23 18:06:03 · answer #10 · answered by thatartistwin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋