For my birthday, my boyfriend gave me a card and on it he wrote some really nice things...
Well..a few days ago i was surfing the net and i found a poem that said exactly what he wrote on the card.
I dont know why i feel weird about it....we have been together for 4 years, i would at least expect him to write what he feels.
Am i just being unresonable?
thanks....
2007-01-23 17:45:03 · 29 answers · asked by Martita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
AT least he made the effort to look for something that made sense of how he feels about you
you should be pleased he made the effort in the first place.
2007-01-23 17:50:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't see that this is any different than buying a card in a store and signing it. You know... those cards that already have stuff printed on them. I can't stand those things because it's never what I would say so I don't buy them. But hey, he's a guy. You can't expect him to come up with this stuff on his own. We guys aren't good at that stuff. No new news there. Also, what if he saw that on the net and read it and said to himself, "Hey, that's exactly what I'd like to say to my wife!" and so he wrote it in a card for you.
I think you have other things that you should worry about. Like a meteorite hitting your house. Or maybe being attacked by a rabbid sheep or something.
I don't think you're unreasonable, you're just disappointed. You thought you had the perfect man who could write such a thing and then you got let down when you realized they weren't his words. But reality says that men are lousy at putting their sentiments into words on paper or otherwise. Rest assured we men appreciate women but we're not good at saying so. It's nothing personal.
Besides, a lot of women don't even get cards from the bf's or husbands. At least he thought of you. And I think you can assume he did write what he feels, he just found the words from outside of himself.
So yes, it is okay to grab something off the net and write it on a card and sign it.
Hope you start feeling better about all of this.
2007-01-23 18:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being unreasonable, the fact that he got you a card and found something really nice to write on it means a lot. He could have just stopped by the store on the way home and picked up a card and signed it while he was driving. At least he did put some thought into it.
2007-01-23 18:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by Alaska 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was going out with my boyfriend (now my husband) for a few months he sent me a romantic poem by text. When I was at his place a few days later I saw a little poetry book with the same poem in it. Worse was that insribed in the front of the book was a message from his ex-girlfriend who gave him the book! I was not very pleased but he said he couldnt write poetry himself! I forgave him but made him throw about that book.
I think some men are not able to express themselves but I think it's really sweet that he wrote something nice in the card even if it was copied from the net!
2007-01-23 22:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little, but maybe he was stuck for things to say, saw the poem and though it fit what he wanted to say and couldn't improve on it. I used a song by John Lennon and changed a couple of lines to be read as a poem at my wedding. It fit the bill perfectly, so don;t be to hard on the guy. Talk it over with him in a friendly and constructive manner and I'm sure you'll find that he does love you really, but can't really find the words to say it. Some of us men are just shy like that.
2007-01-24 00:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by Doodle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that the only thing that was on the card? I think everyone's being too nice, he could have at least added a couple of sentences of his own. He's probably a lovely guy, the one for you etc so I wouldn't worry too much, he's trying to do what he thinks is best; but I think you have a right to be mildly upset about it. He should be able to write down what he feels by now.
2007-01-23 17:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by architectgolf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your disappointed cos you felt the words were personal and just for you. I understand that, but look at it this way maybe he couldn't write it because he's not good at it. So he looked on the net and found something that said what he wanted to say.
You liked it so I guess you guys or on the same wavelength surely thats what counts here and the fact he put some thought into it.
2007-01-23 17:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by Bohdisatva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can look at it this way, maybe the card said things that he felt,but was unable to put into words. At least he didn't give you a card that was pre wrote and didn't care enough to write anything on it.
2007-01-27 15:13:32 · answer #8 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are....... he could have written a load of old drival, but no, he thought about it, and decided to spend the time surfing the net until he found someone you knew better than him how to express ,the way he felt about you.
Now go and give him a big kiss for being so thoughtful.
Silly girl.
2007-01-25 19:46:37 · answer #9 · answered by animalwatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No honey, don't sweat it. Sometimes men aren't good with words and seek help in saying romantic things. What he copied I imagine was after going through many different things online and finding just the right words. He may have put much thought into it...looking for the right words to say but lacking the vocab to say it without help.
2007-01-23 18:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by sheepinarowboat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the card did express how he felt, some guys just aren't good at putting feelings into words, so he did the next best thing.....relax..least he is still romantic...thats more than i can say for some
2007-01-23 17:59:05 · answer #11 · answered by snickers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋