career or husband?

Question

please help.. I'd like to be settled and to have a family, I'm 26...

But the one prospect I'm interested resides in another town. That would mean I quit my job and go to him..

I'm so confused, what's the solution to this kind of problem? Give up and look for a husband around my town, or give up my career growth in this great job I have here........

(and go job hunting all over again to the new town.. I'm afraid my skills may not be easily transferrable, and I would loose out on my career).

Your advise would be welcome.... God bless!

Answer 1

Keep your career. I married at 20, did office jobs and then had two children. I'm now in my late 40's trying to work on a degree finally and missed all those "earning years." Life is not easy later and it gets really expensive. Start investing now while time is on your side.

Answer 2

It depends what r yr goals in life. What eventually u would like yr future to be. Of course the most ideal is to hv best of both world, unfortunately this is not the case.
Hv u discuss it with yr er...'propestive'? U may never know he could be supporting yr idea too.
Then u ask yrself, is he the one u would want to spend the rest of yr life together and be happy?
A yes or no answer, u should know what to do.
Is financial a critical issue right now?
If yes, then it could be more critical then having yr family.
If no, job r like husband too, they can always be available again. Don't fred about it that u go thru all over again, it applies same to relationship!
How ready u r to setting down and hv yr own family?
Do u really need to married now and hv yr kids or because everyone's is doing it or maybe yr family is pushing u to do so?
Don't married for sake of marriage, u will regret later.
So make yr decision wisely. Cheers!

Answer 3

Judging from your choice of words, namely calling a loved one as "a prospect I'm interested in", and the simple fact that you are even asking this question, you better stick with the career. You are obviously not ready for the huge commitment that it takes to make a marriage successful. When you are truly ready to be married, then you won't even need to ask this question.

Answer 4

This actually happened to me and unfortunately I was still working on my degree at the time which my current job was paying for so it was really hard for me to leave plus I was making really good money for not completing my degree and upon completion I was going to get a great raise. My boyfriend wanted me to move to another state but after a lot of thought and talk with my friends I decided not to. I couldn't drop everything that I had worked so hard to build. And then one friend asked me why he couldn't move to my state which he absolutely said no to. So, in the end it me that had to move...he would not consider moving to my state. It's been 3 years later and I am now engaged to a wonderful man. Best of luck!

Answer 5

ok, that's YOUR side. How does HE feel? Just because you want to be settled and have a family, doesnt mean that HE's the one. I would NOT give up your current job. In fact, I'd put my full efforts into it. In doing so, you'll probably meet someone to settle with and have a family!

Answer 6

Career....you'll meet someone along the way you are still young. Maybe you'll meet him in your same career environment. Good luck.

Answer 7

he hasn't proposed so what's to worry? if he is yours, he'll come along. career now while you're young and keep in touch and try a long distance relationship. it's hard but sometimes without bread you can't survive but without love, you can mange it!

Answer 8

career, you have plenty of time to find another prospect closer to you

Answer 9

if you are in love with him then do it!