I left a stressful job, got in great shape, lost 50lbs, but now I've been offered to go back for $$. would u?

Question

I had a horrible human being as a boss, the stress was high. I am really good at what I do though...so another firm has offered me something. I work for myself now, but this offer comes with the "promise" of more upside that is hard to pass up and was unexpected. Also, more professional contacts. I am afraid though of returning to a viscious cycle of long hours while sacrificing myself health wise and relationship wise. Should I hold out for more quality of life perks like flex hours or remote work days. It is doable in my industry but most say "no" intitially. I think I am past the point of sacrificing everything for a job. If I work for me, it will take me a few years to make what this job pays now. I am leaning towards asking for flexibility and maybe more pay. I want a life this time around...and want to keep the weight off. And I want my gf back who left me....lol.

Answer 1

Do not go back to work for any stressful job!!!
You will be much happier in the long run working for yourself and eventually you will make better money with more independence.
Your health and life are much more important than that.

Answer 2

You shouldn't return to a stressful job even if it is with another firm. If you're working for yourself right now and it would take you a few years to make that amount, it shouldn't matter. You'll end up being a happier person and better off in the long run, physically, mentally, basically, you'll be better off overall.

Answer 3

Well, can you make really clear to your prospective new boss what your limits are? It sounds like you are a very solid performer and can negotiate for what you want - a reduced work week, or more vacation.

Add it up. You are making a living now, and what would this new job offer give you that you don't have now? I'd chat him up. If your new employer can't give you what you want, you can always say no.