HiI am a married male but my spouse is not interested in sexual activities?

Question

Hi
I am a married male but my spouse is not interested in sexual activities unlike me,I dont want to be unfaithful to her.
Could you suggest some medicines which i can give her so that our married life can be saved.
Its very embrassing for me to goto counselling or such things.Please suggest some locally available medicines which i can give her through some drinks or something without her knowing so that after a while she will get used to it and even without medicines we can enjoy a healthy sex life

Answer 1

wow.. thats gunna last. Go to counselling. But leave her at home.

Answer 2

Why is it mostly seen that Indians prefer to do that thing which is undesirable and illogical while skipping the ones that are the opposite? This is particularly true in case of sexual problems. Any sensible person would go to a doctor or counsellor for help in such matters. By feeling embarassed to take a visit there, you are only showing that any problem exists with you and not your wife.

Answer 3

Please don't try any short cut method. This is not such a serious problem to be worried. There chould be some reason for apathy towards sex and It is mostly pschological block (in Psychology of Sex, this condition is called 'figidity').

Frank discussion in a pleasant mood could help. Your approach including personal grooming, oral hygiene and dress could be given more importance. Finally emotional warmth and simple psychological support to your partner should be given freely.

Possitive and welcoming changes may occur but slowly. So you have to be perseverant and also patient for the final result. All the Best.

Answer 4

you shouldn't have married someone you probably did not love. Barring an prepared marriage, i do no longer understand why you would possibly want to. That stated, married 11 /12 years, have sex a minimum of 5 nights per week, in many cases all 7, in certain circumstances contained in the mornings on weekends because the youngster sleeps in overdue and we've some quiet time.

Answer 5

I truly feel for you but drugging someone with any meds without their knowledge is illegal and if your wife were allergic to it and you caused her to become ill, you could go to jail. Not to mention being disceptive is not really a turn on. Has she recently had a baby? This affects libido alot. Is she overweight? being obese affects the hormone levels that control libido. Talk to her about it and find out what the problem is. Women are emotional...everything is connected to everything else. Their minds are far less "compartmentalized" as men's. They cannot turn their sex drive on and off like men can. Having a loving husband hear you and care makes you far more attractive to her. But DON'T manipulate her with some pills or over the counter crap. Be nice to her.

Answer 6

First of all do not give her something without her knowing because this will only be a crutch which in the long run might have other symptons and most of all it's not fair to her. If you want fullfillment and satisfaction enjoying the ecstacy that your lovemaking to your wife will give... You need to woo her...find out what she like to do painting, going out dancing, gardening, cooking exotic meals...whatever you should in hence her outside desires first, do small things for her...leave a rose on her pillow...a massage, a love note in her purse...you have to bring the desire of love, senuality, sexual arousal out of her. Before you can get to this icing on the cake...you have to make sure all the ingredinents are mix so that you can take bite and taste the pleasures of love with your wife. Remember, this will not happen overnight...determination, consisitency and unconditional love for her will open her up and she'll be willing to give herself on a platter to you for you to indulge yourself...It will be worth the wait I promise...Cheers!!

Answer 7

Your spouse will have had some problem if she is not intrested in sex. Try to talk to her and find out what is wrong Sometimes some simple myth that she firmly believes may be the reason. It is better not to try any medicines yoursef.There is no harm in meeting a good councellor.

Answer 8

hi kaddy how r u..u r qes is natural. first of take ur wife to a doc .he will counsel u and u r partner.by making a visit to doc only u can solve this problem.firstly talk to her in a happy mood tell her that iam so intd in sex.by giving her love and affection only u can ignore this prblm,or another remedy is there talk with her parents or best friendswho r married.there many ways to solve.u can solve this by sitting with ur and her parents.both familieshave to discuss about this and take necessary steps.u cant do those things my giving her med without the permission of a specialist.so first of all close these tricks and consult doc.

Answer 9

First off no medicine go to your doctor and talk to him about the problem.You had better do something if you want a sex life. Maybe even a sex therapist can help.But you both have to go together.Discuss this problem wih her.You both need to work at this. Get help.

Answer 10

I really feel that after seeing your male organ, it might have put her off, she may have had dreams of pure fulfilment and desires.

Instead of drugging her, against the law, why dont you see a phychologist and or male organ enlarger / beautifier. Viagra does not help in such cases where members are tiny or plain ugly to see, try a bit of personal hygine also, might help.

Answer 11

The simplest medicine would be 'a change in your attitude' your attitude may be damping her.
There is a saying 'u cannot buy sex, even from your wife, you must earn it' so next time, don't insist on having sex, as a right, but earn it as a favour from her, maybe it will work.