my friend has her two grandkids and has to make a decision to relinquish them to the CPS or adopt them herself in march. she isn't in a situation to raise them, however if she legally adopts them, can she them put them up for private adoption, thus securing her say for where they are placed? she's in california. she wants the boys to stay together, loves them dearly, but just can't raise them. they are 5 and 2. she has had them on and off for a couple years. their parents have lost all rights.
2007-01-23 16:13:01 · 7 answers · asked by LM 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Going through a private adoption agency doesn't mean that she will have a say in where they will be placed.
In my opinion, she needs to be upfront with the CPS caseworkers and court officials regarding her intentions. They may be able to explain all of the options to her more clearly.
Another option might be to see if there are any other relatives or friends of the family who would be able to adopt the children.
2007-01-23 16:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by ambr123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend may get into a lot of trouble if she adopts the children out at the close of the case and cps finds out about it. First both the cps caseworker and the guardian ad lit-em need to be made aware that there may be some financial hardships associated with her adopting the grandchildren that way they can direct her to the appropriate social services so that she can rcve help. If your friend does not want to do that then she needs to speak to her family and extended family and see if they would be willing to adopt the children prior to the close of the case in March. If neither of these work for her then she needs to tell the cps caseworker that at this time she is unable to adopt them. It will put them back into the system i am sorry to say, but even if your friend arranged a successful private adoption for her grandkids it still does not guarantee them a productive future or guarantee that cps will not interfere in the adoption before it closes.
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2007-01-25 09:11:55 · answer #2 · answered by HookemPanthers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most states have a law which requires the governmental placing agency to keep siblings together if reasonably possible. Since I am not familiar with CA law, I do not know if CA has such a presumption.
In any event, she should contact the agency and find out if such a presumption exists. Because I doubt that her temporary legal custody will alleviate the problem if she only plans on terminating her custody in favor of a private adoption agency.
The placing agency (in most states) is also required to do a relative-check prior to placement. That might provide some hope (or worry depending on the case).
God bless those kids...
2007-01-23 19:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by snowdrift 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoption can be a wonderful thing, but also very heartbreaking. I am an adoptive parent of one little boy who is the love my my life. I would really love to adopt again, I am homestudy ready and have allthe paperwork in order. I would be honored to get to know your friend and see if she may feel we are a suitable family for her two little men. I am hoping to find a situation that is open, does she want to remain in contact with her Grandsons?
Please email me at jen1204ca@yahoo.ca Take care, I hope things work out for the best. Even if she isn't interested in us as an adoptive family, she can feel free to ask me any questions about the adoption process. : )
2007-01-23 22:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by calgaryjenhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
particular, in fact the babies in Ontario over 7 years old could desire to consent to the adoption. yet I could desire to assert returned that if a baby did no longer consent to adoption and could desire to no longer go returned to human beings, then what? i think of those issues could desire to be reported till now ability adoptive mom and dad are interior the image. i think of guardianship is sturdy for people who've links to the delivery mom and dad, yet then they could desire to otherwise be long term wards of foster care with persevered touch with their mom and dad than be accompanied. If that's truly an decision and could artwork greater powerful for the baby than a clean verify, then why don't you? What we can't lose sight of is that no adoptive verify is in this altruistically. there are a number of people who're extraordinarily darn cool (lol), yet interior the top we began this experience to be mom and dad. particular we are purely taking in babies who want a house, however the top effect is the desire to be mom and dad ourselves, with each and all of the criminal rights. If guardianship grow to be on the table, i'm no longer a hundred% that i could have been as gung ho, and could maybe have stayed as a protracted term foster source. yet particular, in answer to the question, the baby could desire to have a say.
2016-11-26 22:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you argue every reason for doing that, and no points against it. I think you already know what's best. Hopefully your friend does, too- what are her thoughts and feelings about this?
For the record, I think it sounds like a good idea. I hope that you won't mind helping her out in the meantime, when she has two kids and a buttload of court/legal documents to take care of.
2007-01-23 16:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by Bobby S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I think it would just confuse and scar the kids more.
2007-01-26 01:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by wisegirl1204 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋