I posted a question about some worries regarding ectopic pregnancy and was told that I did not deserve to have children because I had 2 abortions when I was very very young.. (peoples lives vary). I am NOW % WEEKS PREGNANT and think I DO deserve it, as I have a loving partner and we are very happy!
2007-01-23 16:09:32 · 27 answers · asked by SunshineCoast24 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Amen honey. Our past choices do not affect our ability to care for a child. I no longer agree with abortion, and I wish I hadn't aborted my first child but I see my current child as a token of forgiveness from God.
2007-01-23 16:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by gourmetkid 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
1st partners don't aways stay neither do husbands when the pressure rises too high for some of them. So i hope if something happens to that guy you can support that baby. People have a right to think what they wanna think sometimes what they think is down right cruel and vicious. Honestly i'm not choosing any sides here. when it comes to the abortion thing. But i do feel that every woman has the right to experience motherhood if god sees fit to allow her to become pregnant. He's blessed you with a baby for the 3rd time and i hope you don't take it for granted. it's so many women who can't get pregnant who must adopt..... Don't worry bout what people say their not god it's not their right to judge you. It's gods right to judge he states that in the bible. If you had an abortion he will forgive you for it cause no sin is greater then the others and that's he's a forgiving god. Since you were young when you started having sex why didn't you use condoms?...i'm just asking you don't have to anwser...
2007-01-24 00:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Lil Mama 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure now is a better time for you to accept the responsibilities of becoming a parent. You know when you are ready. Other people have no right to make that decision for you. Those people were speaking out of ignorance. Forget them.
I've been in the same situation and thankfully my son did fine during my pregnancy. You will need to be honest with your doctor about your past. Some risks may be higher for you.
I had trouble when I went into labour. My placenta didn't completely seperate from the womb and I started bleeding badly and needed an emergency c-section. It was called placenta abruption.. Previous abortions increase your risk of the same thing. Talk to your Dr.
2007-01-24 00:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by •√¡rgő• 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah, some people on this thing are just BORED. Well, honestly i come on here when i'm bored, too, but some people are just dumb. Remeber that this is an internet forum to ask questions from other people out there... not all questions and answers on here are educated, serious ones because not all people on here are educated, serious people! Also, there's no age limit to come on here so you may never know, someone acting dumb on here could be like 16 years old. Just a word of advice, given the kind of site this is, I wouldn't lay out something personal like abortions or something like that. I just ask questions because I'm just wondering. But of course, if I had a real serious question or had something to say I wouldn't come on here. I would go to a doctor or a close friend or relative or something. This site is supposed to be for our benefit to a certain extent where we may ask for other people's advice, opinion, or experience. And in the end, this is ultimately for our entertainment.
So don't take it personal when people cut you down like that because a site like this will have stuff like that. I'm 36 weeks pregnant and although it wasn't planned I've grown to accept and love the situation, and if anyone told me that I didn't deserve it then bad luck to them! Congratulations on your pregnancy and you and your partner DO deserve it!
2007-01-24 00:24:56 · answer #4 · answered by mommy.luv.jordyn 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well alot of people have very VERY VERY strong feelings about abortion. It's wrong, it you know anything about embyro/fetal development you would know that it is considered murder by many people!!! If you know your pregnant, and have an abortion, you are taking the life of your unborn child. So some people believe that people like you should not deserve to have children. Also there are hundreds, if not thousands of women out in the world that cannot have children no matter what they do and absolutely deserve to have the opportunatity to have children and you who abort could have had the child and given it up for adoption.
Congrats to your current pregnancy. I will not say you deserve it but the baby does deserve to be given life!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-24 00:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by missjewl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You deserve to be happy. You didnt do anything wrong. If you had the abortions im assuming you did what you thought was best. If you were young then that probobly was the best choice. And like other people said, people are going to be cruel. People will always have different opinions on different subjects. Just always follow your heart and do whats best for you, not anyone else.
2007-01-24 00:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by mm16 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Congratulations on your new baby!
These days it's the nature of people to be cruel and condemning if they don't agree with something you do. Their opinions don't matter (though their comments were certainly harsh and hurtful). Know that there are people like your parter who support you, and that for as many people might have said hurtful things, there are *so* many more who sympathize with you. Thre are many reasons they could be having that response--maybe some of them can't have children, or have thmeselves had abortions and haven't dealt with their own issues.
In any case . . . good luck to you in your endeavors. Don't ever doubt your ability to be a good mother, and don't ever doubt your worth because of decisions you made years ago or comments faceless people typed on the internet.. Focus on the joy of your new baby!
2007-01-24 00:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by strungbluestars 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
They give out bad karma and it will come back and bite them where it hurts so dont concern yourself about them~! Firstly, Congratulations! You are embarking on the best journey you will ever take in life! Being a parent gives you joy like you would never imagine possible! I honestly feel sorry for people who dont have kids! I have five, and each one of my children has brought new joy to my life in their own way! They give you pleasure in your life every single day! They give you a reason to live and make your life happy! And love? you will,have love like some people only dream of! About you abortions, Every babys soul knows the journey it is about to take no matter how long or short it is to be, they still choose to enter because they have a life lesson to learn or share that will benefit their souls. Do not feel guilt , because it was already mapped out, you were just the one to fufill it.{hope you understand that} so my friend enjoy the magical journey you are going on and get ready for the best ride of your life!!! Love and best wishes to you!xx
2007-01-24 00:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
because people are so close minded until they get in a situation then its okay. i don't even read the debates on here about abortion because it will always be a never ending tug of war. congrats to you and don't listen to everyone else, they are the crazy ones not you. good luck and don't look at the past look at the future. everything happens for a reason. again CONGRATS!!!
2007-01-24 01:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by STRAY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what these people have to say on here. You had your reasons for the 2 abortions but that was in the PAST..
2007-01-24 00:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋