I'm 30 and have a great sex life with my husband. But I am unable to have a vaginal orgasm. I only seem to be able to have a clitoral orgasm. I've never masturbated - so its not that thats all I was used to.
We make sure there's plenty of foreplay, i get really wet, he lasts long enough (around 8 to 10 mins) I almost feel like I'm there in 3-4 mins but nothing ever happens..
Anybody have the same issues? Do you know how to solve it?
I've even tried fantasising but it doesnt help.
2007-01-23 15:58:36 · 6 answers · asked by cerebral_orgasm 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Congratulations, you are like the majority of the female population. I WOULD NOT suggest you have any surgery done to change it, if there is such a thing, it would be risky and that's a very important area to be cuting open. There is a study that says the older you get, the easier it will be to have a vaginal orgasm, check out the link below. I would just suggest that you keep trying, maybe try to get your man to last longer, and don't get frustrated on you quest. While most of us don't yet, I wouldn't be surprised to find that most of us are capable.
2007-01-23 17:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. My wife is in a similar position, so to speak, and it's not for want of trying ;-)) I'm very suprised you say that 8-10 minutes is long enough! Completely staggered, actually. Has he got some plane to catch, or a pan on the stove? When we, err, after the preludes, the kissing, the stroking, the teasing, pinching, licking, biting and sucking, there's always AT LEAST 45 minutes of good quality 'in-time'. If he's rather too hair-trigger, he can de-sensitise himself, one of the best ways to do so is to get him in the habit - just a few hours at first - of going commando, first in soft joggers, and ultimately a day in hard, dry jeans, which may be a trial too far for him right now. This will leave him, within a few weeks, with a much longer performance, which surely won't hurt you in your quest.
Do you have him work your button, until your orgasm, with his fingers, (I am a guitarist!) whilst he is inside you? This is a way to get your body to associate the two - clittoral stimulation and penetration - to hopefully just get either to have a more profound effect.
I'd not say that for certain you'll ever have this, indeed, I've heard a number of male and female experts state that a fair percentage just don't ever have this orgasm through penetration alone - and believe me, I've given two handfuls of marathon performances, (vivid, death-bed memories for me!) with much variety of technique, which surely would have produced one for her, if there were one within her. I may add, tootin' my own horn, that lack of my size is certainly not a problem, rather to the contrary, I have to not behave like a bull in a china-shop.
Good luck with this, but at least you already have a good degree of fulfillment.
Finally, I hope this wasn't too personal for you, the reading public, nor the moderators.
2007-01-23 21:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your man needs to play, and explore your body a lot more....when making love if he is on top get him to hold your buttock cheeks so that his thrust is deeper, but the strokes must be deep and slow....i actually don't think there's any thing wrong with you...your body and mind needs just a little fine tuning so to speak....people are always after the quick fixes, these things are worth working on.
2007-01-23 19:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try another sex position. woman on top might be best for you to search the G-spot by yourself.
but if you still can't make it, maybe you need to contact a sex consultant.
2007-01-23 16:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by evi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your gyno. I think there is a relatively simple procedure that can be done.
2007-01-23 16:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRY HAVING HIM "SWIRL " INSIDE YOU OR WOMAN ON TOP ?
2007-01-23 16:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by Christy Davies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋