I have the hardest time trusting and opening up to people. Especially lately, the past couple of years or so, I don't know how to beat this. First, the guy I fell in love with (first love) turned out to only go out with me out of a bet. He was my first boyfriend...that was the end of my love life....
The first bestfriend, the first person other than my family I ever trusted, back stabbed me, told everyone I am copying people. The second one stopped being friends with me because I supposedly went out with the guy she liked behind her back..NEVER DID..but she wouldn't let me explain myself and that was that.. The third one just stopped talking to me out of the blue because I couldn't make it to her birthday party (I was very very sick). The last one turned out to be liar and a sneaky person where I had shared everything about myself she had kept secret about herself. That and other things she did made me think about our friendship and I broke it off. I am so depressed. Please help!
2007-01-23 15:53:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all sweetie you are special because you are still here talking about it. These days many people take the coward road and either kill themselves or go on some type of binge. It seems that you are attracting the wrong types of people in your life. Think about the quality in each person that you had an encounter with and figure out what they all had in common other than selfishness because it is a pattern with you. That is just really strange. It is not you though it is clearly them and the sad part about it is you will run into more. Everyone in this world does not mean you well or want to see you happy. God is your friend and he will place a real MAN and a real FRIEND in ya life when the time is right. For now just sit back and find out who you are and where you want your life to go but dont ever give up on ya self. You too blessed to be stressed and too anointed to be disappointed! Stay blessed!
2007-01-23 16:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by shay80800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sound of things, it seems that you have met the wrong people. You will meet good and bad people in your lifetime, as for being depressed, everyone has been there. Life goes on no matter what. I suggest that you find some kind of club at school or a sport where you can be around people who are into the stuff that you are. I may sound like a high school counselor but it really works, it did for me. As far as love, love is everywhere, I'm not a hippy or nothing, but as long as you love your family and yourself then that is something to start with. You need to start loving yourself because you cannot spend your whole life basing your happiness on others, we all have issues, that's how life works.
2007-01-23 16:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by gotstobe06 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've been hanging around the wrong kind of people who are not what I would call "true friends." (And by the way, a romantic "boyfriend" is not a friend, so dump him from your list of former friends anyway.)
It sounds to me that you have been opening up to people before you truly know you can trust them. Don't do this. Treat people nicely, do things with them, support them, but DON'T tell them everything about yourself. This is a great mistake, especially for a young person who is often inexperienced in the friendship game.
You have to constantly monitor your friendships for signs of trouble. There are times when you have to pull back a little when you sense something is amiss.
Remember too that many friendships are temporary in nature. Also remember that there are different kinds of friends: casual, close, and even best friends. Don't think everyone is or can be your best friend. There's a lot of people you can enjoy being with, socially, but you would not want to tell them any deep, dark secrets about yourself -- and a good number of them you can never rely upon during times of great trouble -- admit that to yourself and don't expect them to be best friends.
My main advice: Keep reaching out for new friends. Find someone who has the same basic core values that you have, someone you enjoy being with on an ongoing basis. Build up a lot of casual friendships but few close ones.
I hope this helps you.
2007-01-23 16:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry these things have happened to you, but life is full of all kinds of challenges, good and bad. As you get older and more mature, you will learn better how to deal with these ups & downs. Right now, you think everyone has betrayed you, but you think that way now because you're only 17. I assure you that you will see things differently in a few years. Just hang in there, make other friends, and don't try so hard to please other people. Be yourself, someone will come along who will appreciate you for it.
2007-01-23 16:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by crash 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the wonderful world of human nature. That's how people are. That's why people say that u r lucky if u have one true friend. We all feel that way; just about everyone in our lives puts a knife in our back one time or another. I think thats why people love their moms so much; moms r the only ones who (usually) don't do it. Just have fun and hang out with people for fun, but dont put your heart in their hands until u find someone u know u can trust. You will in time... You attract what u emanate, so be a sincere person yourself and other sincere people will gravitate to you.
2007-01-23 16:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by F 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I promise it is not the end of your love life. He hurt himself and his future happiness when he did this to you. Your heart was clear in this relationship. His heart is the faulty one.
Do not worry so much about others and what they think. If they did this to you they are the ones with a character flaw and they will do it to others.
Be your own person. do not try so hard to please others.
Be your own best friend . Sounds like you are not looking at the right kind of people for you.
2007-01-23 16:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
och i feel sorry for you i cant tell you what would i do because i was never treated bad by everyone in my life. but maybe you can move to a new school and start making friends all over agian. you can open up to me and i fell your pain email me at ridedatwave13@yahoo.com
good luck
2007-01-23 15:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by natural asian 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think u should just wait 4 that perfect friend and boyfriend in your life. Sometimes GOD tests u. They'll come one day. Maybe u shouldn't let them go so easily.
2007-01-23 15:58:20 · answer #8 · answered by TrayLuvsJay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look inside an ask yourself what is it about yourself that attracts negative people. Once you work on that then you should attract more positive people.
2007-01-23 15:57:43 · answer #9 · answered by MISS KNIGHT 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you shold be more carful about selecting your friends , I think you are sensitive and should be friend of those who respect your feelings , ....
2007-01-23 16:07:41 · answer #10 · answered by sara_7852 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋