Any solutions for people with anger issues?

Question

My girlfriend has anger problems. When we argue about almost anything, she will get out of control and start throwing things around the apartment and sometimes at me. She slams doors as hard as she can until the door is barely still attached. She also screams soooo loud, all her veins pop out and eyes bulge like someone just killed her cat. What gives? Any treatment medically or prescription known to tame this kind of anger?

Answer 1

Anger management classes help. I know that this sounds cleche but it is true. anger is but the tip of the iceberg. When you figure out what the rest of the iceberg consists of you know that you have found the help you need

Answer 2

How much to you want to invest into her? She never learned to develop past “Temper-Tantrums”.

Reason I ask is that she suffers from being part of the “Flower Child” generation … you know, she was raised by hippies who didn’t discipline her; a common social problem the USA is facing. In short, she needs a person to help her develop into a mature person instead of a spoiled little girl.

So, as a boyfriend, you’re not required to invest money but rather time and discipline. This requires you to learn how to be parental … say no … and re-enforce her good behaviors with love. Since she is all grown up --- well, the effort into these steps need sooo much more than when she was in kindergarten. Watching programs like “Nanny 911” and “Super nanny” can give you ideas.

However, should the violence get dangerous, call the police. Sure she’ll get a record, but you are contributing to her well being by blowing the whistle and forcing her to look into the mirror.

Answer 3

sometimes people who do this sort of thing do it to try to get their bluff in on the other person. My other half tried this intimidation on me and I acted just as crazy as he did. It took a couple of times but it did work. Just don't let it get to the point where either of you cause physical damage to the other, before that happens one should walk away. When your girlfriend is more rational ask her why she gets so emotional. If she can't answer the question in a rational manner then it's time for anger management classes.

Answer 4

Mindfulness is the practice whereby a person is intentionally aware of his or her thoughts and actions in the present moment, non-judgmentally. Mindfulness is applied to both bodily actions and the mind's own thoughts and feelings. In Buddhism, the second kind of mindfulness is considered a prerequisite for developing insight and wisdom. Right Mindfulness is the seventh path from the Noble Eightfold Path, which is in its turn the fourth of the Four Noble Truths.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mindfulness

Kinda gives me a longer fuse.

Cognitive Behavioral thing ...it sounds like.

"Cognitive therapy seeks to identify and change "distorted" or "unrealistic" ways of thinking, and therefore to influence emotion and behavior"
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_therapy

But that door slamming eyes bulging out stuff....
sounds like a job for Dr Phil.
Don't think you gonna fix it.
I couldn't deal with that.
I am low key.
don't like drama.

good luck

Answer 5

Try to get to the root of these anger attacks before advising for anger management. In fact simple solutions like few minute meditation could do wonders.

Answer 6

wow, first of all, i would try to get out of that situation cuase its not healthy, but i was once in anger managment and A.R.T. which is anger retention treatment, what you do when you get angry is count backwards starting from 100 or thing of a nice place where you wish you were, avoid conflict, and resovle the problem or conflict, you can pass this info to your g/f or when she gets mad ignore her, go into your bathroom or a room and lock yourself inside, you'll see that since she has no one to yell or scream at she'll stop and the problem will be difused.

Answer 7

well, i take yoga breath, but that doesn't help everyone...or a lot of people as a matter of fact.

you should find a better outlet for your anger. like of you want to hit someone...don't. hit a punch bag ot pillow. if you want to say something bad to someone, wait and write a letter to them expressing your anger, and then burn it or tear it up. that way you're getting rid of the anger, but not hurting anyone.

if you're anger a lot, just think, what do i get from being anger all the time? nothing. absolutely nothing.

Answer 8

Anger management is good but you can also lay it down in the bedroom whenever i get like that with my man he knows what to do she'll mellow out and sometimes even forget why she was mad in the first place.

Answer 9

There is medication for this condition. Sounds like she needs private or group anger management counseling.

Answer 10

Does she knows how she looks like when you get angry ?

May be you want to video tape it and let he discover herself.

Then talk her to take some anger management class.