we have 2 kids (11mo and 4 yrs) i would have to be at home with
2007-01-23 15:49:05 · 13 answers · asked by hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If a wife or a husband has to "let" (or not let the) other do anything then there are serious issues with your marriage.
you have bigger problems than Chicago!
husbands and wives don't "ask permission", If any one does then there are respect and/or priority issues all the way around.
2007-01-23 17:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by hogie0101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I read your question, a red flag popped up when I put myself in your position. Here you are with a toddler and a 4 year old, and your husband wants to go to Chicago with his 2 buddies.
What's in Chicago and how long would he be away? Here's the thing: He's married now and has a wife, a baby, and a 4-year old.
You and the children should come first. The buddies should take a back seat. I think it's a bit selfish of him to expect you to stay at home with the children, so that he can go to another city with the boys. Would it be okay with him if you wanted to go to Chicago (or somewhere) with two of your girlfriends and leave the kids behind with him? If it was me, it wouldn't sit well with me. But I'm not you, so you have to decide if you are comfortable with this. You've got a lot on your plate there with a baby and a 4 year old. Good luck to you.
2007-01-23 16:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i supposed you do not have a total trust with your husband. To be frank, i am a woman from Singapore and i am worried too when my husband travels alone or with friends to other countries. I always tell him not to have other women or go to bed with others.But whether he did have other women or not, i don't know. But as long as his love is still with the family, he still looks after the family and he still loves you by the end of the day, its nothing important. Everyone should have the freedom and at least he respects you by telling you that he is going away. i have friends whose husbands did not even tell their wives where they are going? I know you would miss him and probably worry about him but if you have a fight with him telling him not to go, things might be adversed. Your husband might not be honest to you the next time he is going away. Or alternatively, you can find a babysitter or leave your kids with a reliable relative and hire extra help. By the way, man are like cats. Which cat doesn't eat fish?
2007-01-23 15:57:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should let him go. Some day you'll be going someplace and you wouldn't want him telling you no you can't go. see of mother in law or one of yoru sisters can chip in while he's away if your finding 2 children to much at once. keep in mind many single motheres been doing this for eons now. try it out im sure you'll be fine set up a time table for the kids and you so your not running all over the place at the last minute and feeling all frenzied
2007-01-23 20:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes why not let him go for a few days? It would not hurt i dont think... Make sure you have enough food and money to get by with while he is away and make sure to keep in touch with him by phone and emails. Spend some quality time with your kids and have some of your friends either and if you have a car go visit them or have a girls day out shopping with your kids and or friends...
2007-01-23 16:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, why does he want to go? How long will he be going? Can you handle things on your own? Just because someone is married and/or has children, does not mean that this someone does not deserve to have a vacation every once and awhile even one without the spouse and/or kids. The only responsibility is to remain faithful and make sure the kids are safe.
If it were me, sure he could go. I'd never have children though!
2007-01-23 15:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is this a Business Trip? What type of men are his friends? Do you know them to be "Players" Do you trust him. Has he ever cheated on you and gave you any reason to not trust him? Only you can answer these questions, but honestly if hes made his mind up to go, other than get mad at him theres not much you can do. Men need their space just like women do, but only to a point.
2007-01-23 15:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You havnt offered enough information.
What would he be going for and for how long?
If its business then yes........
If its only for a social weekend and there's no trust issues, then why not?
Every couple still needs time out and things to do on their own...........and if you let him go, then you can always do the same another time, with your friends, and hae him mind the kids.
2007-01-23 15:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust his friends? If he's never done anything to make you not trust him let him go. just tell him to remember that if your girlfriends want to do the same.
2007-01-23 16:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, did he forget he's married, with 2 kids?
2007-01-23 15:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋