I love my fiance' I just want us to be happy together forever.
2007-01-23 15:40:42 · 9 answers · asked by Levitra K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A long time ago, people courted. Men would come to the girls' house, they'd have to sit in the living room with the girls' family, and they'd have to actually TALK to each other. Eventually they would move to the porch, then they'd get to go on walks by themselves. With the invention of the car, courtship stopped. The backseat suddenly meant that men and women could just make out without getting to know each other. People don't take the time to really talk to one another and get to know their partner. As long as you know your fiance and you know that there won't be any surprises, you'll do just fine. Make sure you're financially stable before you get married so there wont' be huge fights about money. And make sure you get your education no matter what.
2007-01-23 15:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The real problem is that dating is pressured onto kids much younger today that 30 years ago. Girls want to be their idol, start wearing make up and clothes meant for much older girls. Boys are pushed to acceptance at an age where they are far from ready to be men in society. Television has been a root cause of this.
Girls feel accepted with a boyfriend too early in life, missing the ability of learning true communication. If a boy doesn't have a GF, he feels like an outsider among popularity. Parents not being a part of their daily lives prevents teaching in this area.
The internet has played havoc, as teenagers aren;t taught respect of their parents and elders, instead of gaining insight and wisdom from those with the most knowledge and experience.
Those who take their life to learn about themselves instead of what the media portrays them as is a key to letting time be the true witness.
2007-01-23 15:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are no guarantees. That's for sure. Sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith. Marriage is more challenging in this day and age, for many reasons. Do you and your fiance share the same values? Do you respect one another? Are you on the same page when it comes to fidelity (being faithful)? How well do you deal with conflict, differences of opinion, and other issues that have come up? Do you trust him, and does he trust you? In your heart of hearts, do you believe that the two of you can work together to forge a partnership, in sickness and in health, through thick and thin, that will stand the test of time? Good luck. I wish you all the best.
2007-01-23 15:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to go into it knowing that you will run into problems at one point in time; but you know in your heart that this is who you want to go through it with. You both have to ask yourself if you believe in divorce. Some people throw that word around real loosely. Truth is if you dont have the same respect for marriage then you will run into issues and become a statistic. So just keep praying about it and it will be okay. Trust me every marriage goes through a test at one time or another. The question is are you both ready and willing to survive it?????? Just live everyday one day at a time. Stay blessed!
2007-01-23 15:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by shay80800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just spend enough time together to make sure because divorce is crazy you can not rush and i dont care what anyone says there is more to marriage than love you have to have patience ,understanding ,forgiveness and tons of other things that when you are flat out hacked off at someone else these things are hard to come by it sounds alot easier than it is ,just read this column in marriage and divorce for a month to get just a hint of some of the things people go thru,its serious really serious.
2007-01-23 15:57:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The divorce rate has NOTHING to do with you and your fiance. Do you and he attend Church? Do you and he believe in divorce? Do you and he have a relationship that is built on TrUsT? GOD has held many failing marriages together. TRUST has kept many people together that would never have been married in the first place. I suggest that you sit down with your fiance and discuss your relationship on a trust basis and on a religious standpoint and see where you both stand on those issues. I place GOD at the top of our relationship. My wife and I have a 31 year marriage and have never been to a point where either of us has mistrusted the other. We are both strong Christians and believe that GOD is at the center of our marriage. HE strengthens us when no one else can. Have a great evening.
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2007-01-23 15:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by Eds 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then treat her like you would a fine garden. Tend to her needs and be ever mindful of intruders. Allow her to bloom, and take in her fragrance. Always nourish the roots, and hydrate them...but if you over-fertilize you will burn the plant, if you over water, you will drown the plant.
Hint: If you neglect her with too little attention and gifts, your marriage (garden) will die. If you pour on too much, you will burn her out.
2007-01-23 15:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. If it is true love, it won't fade if you wait, and if he loves you, he will respect your insecurities about this.
2007-01-23 15:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-23 15:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋