My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 8 months, I love this guy to death! His family love's me and my family loooovee's him. It quite honestly reminds me of my oldest sister and her husband ( my brother in law) anyways my boyfriend is 18 turning 19 next month, im turning 18 in 3 months. He contiuously ask's me if I'd marry....( I would) and if I would be the proud mother of his children ( of course in the future, after I get my BA). My question is , Is he just joking? He sounds dead serious everytime I ask him. He says he want's no other girl but me and me only. That he's gone through so many and finally found the best of them all and whatnot....Anyways....Is he joking or what?!?
2007-01-23 15:38:56 · 32 answers · asked by Esmi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are only 17, there is plenty of time for marriage and a family, you yourself said you want a BA. Go and enjoy life and all there is to enjoy out there. If he is the right one, he will wait.
2007-01-23 15:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So he says your the best....Well, you may be the best!
Lets just look at this situation though. How many girls could he have been with in such a short time? He's only 18.
I hate to tell you this, but every thing is amazing when all you have to think about is school and love. Can he support you and a baby?
What plan does he have for his future? I can tell you one thing, you get married have a baby, or even just get married no baby, it's gonna be almost imposible to support your family and go to school. Which means you will struggle greatly! Love is not the same when your broke and tired thats the real deal.
Further more, both of you will change sooooo much for the next 10 years you may not even feel he's rite for you in 3 years.
Then your stuck working on a devorce instead of a carreer.
If he loves you and is serious he's not going any were make him wait. He can love you with out getting married rite away.....
It's sweet to feel important and know some one wants to spend there life with you so I understand. I hope he's serious enough to wait, & willing to work really hard in college to support a wonderful life together!!
Much love to the both of you
Truth-
2007-01-23 15:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by A man ready to commit. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be serious but the thing is do not sit and dwell on that. When the time is right he will ask you the appropriate way i hope. I just hope that you two are truly ready for that type of committment. Or maybe even just having a long engagement so that you can be sure. I see you said in the future so stick to that and if it is meant to be then it will be. I met my husband at college almost 8 years ago and we were just friends. I left and once he graduated like 3 years later he found me so if God wants you to be together than he will make it happen. Stay blessed!
2007-01-23 15:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by shay80800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is serious...today. Hearing his thoughts about marriage and children is exciting. You are almost eighteen-the legal ability to marry is very seductive at that time of life. There are other ways to prove one is an adult that are less costly in the long run though.
Get an education now, find a job, be self-supporting, have some fun, grow older before deciding on marriage. Marriage often involves children and children need parents who are committed to the relationship and not pining for all the things they didn't do because they got married before experiencing life.
If he's the one he will still be with you through these growing years.
2007-01-23 16:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by debisbooked 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not be the answer you want to hear, but it's true. If you are unsure about whether he is joking or not about this issue, your relationship is not honest and clear enough for you to commit to anything. The best answer you can give him is that you both need to wait until you want to make this kind of committment. If it doesn't bother you that you are asking strangers whether he is joking about this kind of question, it should. And it should also let you know that your relationship has a long way to go before you can decide this question. That's actually great news for you, have fun, get some college education, get to know him better, be happy about this.
2007-01-23 15:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by Caper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your sure it's true love and you really have no desire to be with anyone else then GO FOR IT! tkae him seriously... but trust me you'll hear ALOT of flack from your friends and family and his too ... and strangers... even but if it's really true love then the age doesn't matter... We married 15 days after he finished high school he was 18 and I had just turned 17 ..3 months before... that was July 1st 2000 of -course we've been through some crazy things , some very serious and challenging to our relationship. but July 1st will make 7 years... we baught our own home 41/2 years ago and have a son that will be 4 in April...the sad thing is I had friends that copied us... all three of their marriages ended in divorce... IT"S NOT FOR EVERYONE.. get premartial counceling...we did( even they will try to talk you out at your age) BUT follow your heart and learn to be flexable and giving and understanding and never take each other for granite...true love is blind it will be too late for you know it was real...
2007-01-23 15:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by JeNe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband did the same thing before we got married and he told me later he was just testing the waters to make sure if he asked that i wouldnt reject him,and i believe that because we are married ,just be careful,im sure he may be sincere but dont get your hopes up until he is down on one knee with a ring,because both of you are young and sometimes intentions are good doesnt mean it always works out the way you want be cautious but enjoy your life you are both young and have a long time ahead of you to plan a wedding LOL goodluck
2007-01-23 15:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! calm the hell down, go have sex or something....i think u guys need to let out some steam, try living with that person ull get annoyed by him pretty soon, then again u may not, but WAAAAYYY TOOOO EARLY to be thinking about marriage, i was with a girl for 3 years, recently broke up, she was 15 i was 18 when we met, she is now 18 and im 21, we literally broke up like 3 months ago, and i wanted to marry her and everything, and i did mean it, but we started spending a lot of time with each other, and then fights came, and then this and that, and BOOM! its over and she leaves me for another guy, and she supposedly loved only me...BULL...u know what! be with him if u want, but DO NOT get married or else ull raise our 70% divorce rate to like 71% and we do NOT need that
2007-01-23 15:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have to ask, he is. Seriously, you are both young. See the world. Get your degree, then look him up. If he is still interested, THEN get married. If you have kids now, you will have a much harder time finishing school. Also, when you do have kids, you may have to work to support them, and you can get better jobs more easily with a degree. Hopefully he will get his degree too, and make life easier and better for both of you. Have fun! Enjoy life. Get married in 6 or 8 years. You may regret being tied down if you get married now.
2007-01-23 15:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by roscoedeadbeat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait a couple years. Don't rush into anything. U guys are still in the beginning of the relationship. U 2 are still young. He probably isn't playing. Wait at least 2 years 2 make that big decision. You'll know him much better by then.
2007-01-23 15:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by TrayLuvsJay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋