What does this mean? Is it even a big deal?

Question

My friend and me aren't close, and have a wierd friendship where we only really get to talk on the internet because he's a year older than me and we have no classes together because of it. He's been on restriction for a while now... and i havn't really said more than a sentence or two untill today, but (in a family/brotherly way) I love im soo much and im worried that recently, since we've been so long withought talking, we're gonna grow apart and that would be soo horrible because he's alway the person i go to when i need help with stuff thats totally overwhelmed me and he's saved me many times from total mental breakdowns by helping me through it and our friendship is built on trust and helping each other...and today, the first time in 4 weeks he found me in school to talk, he caught me in a blind rage over some school stuff and i screamed at him and threw stuff at him... I appolozized profusely later, i tracked him down.. and he seems to understand, but im worried he doesnt really.

actually, no, we've known each other distantly for years because he dated my 5th grade best friend all the way from 5th grade untill the beginning of 9th grade (meand her were distanced by then) and then we had a few classes together and talked a little more, but notmuch, then over the summer i got his AIM screenname and just started a random "hows your summer" conversation and we fell into a trend of spending hours IMing and then we had lunch together first semester and got even closer and now its back to smiles and waves in the halls and no internet cuz he's on restriction (for what i dont know)... so we don't have a very solid foundation here.

it was a sudden change from 'vague aquaintance' to 'close friend' over like... 2 weeks last summer... its crazy.

to add another little tidbit:

By total mental breakdown I dont mean litterally.. i mean like, my best friend's boyfriend was trying to come between me and her back in august because ';he should be more important to her than me.'

And this morning i was mad because im in Model UN which involves soo much hard work with researching every tiny fact about topics and then writing complicated papers and the trip is costly and on top of that, the conference is the same time as Literaray competition.. i was singing 1st soprano in girls trio and loved it, andnow i cant, and i had to miss play practice today because i had a Model UN meeting and the workload is shifting homework to the back burner and the $1800 for the conference/trip is making my parents miss bills and its all just driving me insane and i just snapped because of the news about trip and he happend to come up and say "hey" at the wrong moment...


just so ya'll don't think i'm unstable or something.

Answer 1

If he is a good friend as you say, and has seen you through a lot and has witnessed your "total mental breakdowns" as you say than he should understand that you have been caught once again in another episode of "total mental breakdown".
I think you need to talk to a professional, or the counselor at school. Maybe you are going through more than you can handle and you need more help than your friend can give you. If the two of you only talk on-line and it had been 4 weeks since you both talked, that is a long time for friends to personally talk. Talk to someone else about what you are going through. It is a lot to put all your burdens on one person. Make up to your friend, your abuse of his good nature by doing something nice for him. You could get him tickets to a concert, a car-race, a move, dinner out.. Let him know you appreciate him, a thank you card would be a nice gesture too. To be a friend you need to give too.. and you giving a little of yourself will make him know you appreciate all the time and help he has given you. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 2

It may be as I have the same question with a friend of 30 years. all of a sudden he stopped calling and even after sending a couple of letters I wonder if I did something wrong. I wouldn't even begin to wonder what .
we are a thousand miles away and no insults were ever exchanged. If anything like that happened to you it could be the cause . I am still trying to figure my problem however

Answer 3

I'm sure it's not a big deal and that he really did understand. It sounds like you've been good friends for a long time and he knows you pretty well so he knew not to take it personally. Just sit down and send him an e-mail letting him know that you truly are sorry that you snapped at him and explain what happened then let it go. Good Luck and don't be so hard on yourself.

Answer 4

It's no big deal cos if she has considered you as her friend she wouldn't have been rude or made you feel bad. Afterall these years good friends should have wonderful thoughts about themselves if they missed each other. Relax and forget those who forget us.

Answer 5

if he is a true friend then he understands.....trust me....u dont know how many times me and my bst friend have screamed or yelled or punched each other in a blind rage.....and its been 11 years and we are still best of friends

Answer 6

Ask him if he really has forgiven you. Tell him just what you sais here-how he has helped you in the past, and what he means to you.
Good luck
Joe

Answer 7

I think you need to address your rage problem so you stop assalting your freinds.

Answer 8

i wud not sweat it........if he cares about you like u think he does, then a lil fit will not really bug him like dat....but if u wanna keep ur relationship strong, try communicating more often...gl

Answer 9

another ha ha question .