I've always had a problem with intimacy, wether it be with friendships, people I don't like trying to have romantic relationships, even with relative relationships. I just feel like the whole intimacy thing can only exist between me and someone I'm inlove with, and anything outside of that is just.. well, it gives me a weird uncomfortable and awkward feeling.
For example, a friend I haven't talked to in awhile (and we're not even that close anymore) told me that she's "nothing without me", don't get me wrong, she's still a friend, but that creeped me out. The same things happened with me when people tried to have romantic relationships with me, and if I don't feel the same way or if I'm not attracted to them, I immediately get uncomfortable, embarassed and awkward, which will manifest into anger and shutting them out of my life completely. I get pretty apathetic when it comes to those things, but for those I don't want to hurt, what should I do? I can't help but feel gross.
2007-01-23 15:19:39 · 6 answers · asked by NereidoftheBlue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to break down your wall a bit. It's understandable to have people that you don't care for say or come on to you out of the blue, a lot of people are like that. I wouldn't say it's gross so to speak as awkward and uncomfortable. Is it that most of these people you find sexually unattractive or emotionally unattractive. perhaps if your basing it all on looks than you could very well be missing out on feeling in love with someone great and not necessarily set your standards lower as you might want to give some one not as attractive a chance. If you are emotionally not attracted to them then that is a whole different issue. Do you have trust issues with past relationships that make you feel unable to let yourself trust and love you? If that's the case you should seek a therapist or close friend, to confide these issues in or may be a stranger that is willing to talk with you online that way you can remain anonymous, If you'd like I am always willing to talk, you can email me at freebird3573@yahoo.com if you like. I am kinda curious about you stating that this makes you feel gross. Love is love, but sometimes it takes a little more for some people to give and receive it freely. I wish you the best and take care.~Destiny
2007-01-23 15:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by Destiny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to see a counsellor or someone, I think you're issues are rooted in something deeper. Did something happen to you in the past that is stopping you from being close to people?
I know and understand because I too once felt like that, but dealing with what made me feel like that, allowed me to be able to be closer to people that I love.
Please see someone and find out why you feel this way.
2007-01-23 15:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by Naz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get into therapy a.s.a.p. to find out what causes this fear, this avoidance of intimacy. At least you KNOW that you have a problem and seek help for it, so that self-awareness is an asset.
Once you get over it (if you seek help and find your own answers, it will come!) you will find out that intimacy can feel, well... how can I say it? "Hella good".
2007-01-23 15:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dig deep and find out where that comes from. You won't have a healthy relationship until you get help for that.
2007-01-23 15:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a mental issue. Like you have some kind of phobia.
2007-01-23 15:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hope u find ur answer. its very situation interesting.good luck!
2007-01-23 15:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Johnnie's cash🌴🌙☂✈ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋