I know that i shouldnt even be messing with him, but im in love with him and anyone thats been in my situation should know its not easy to just forget about someone...we have been messing around for 2 years next month during that 2 years we have planned a wedding date and planned for the future until his ex came along, he tells me he loves me and wants to be with me but yet he is getting married. Its not like he is getting anything from me, i dont give him money or anything and we are not really intimate please someone help.....
2007-01-23 15:16:01 · 20 answers · asked by Melanie G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I beleive your answer is right in front of you. I hate to be blunt, but its the only way to really get this sort of message across. If he truly loved you, he would not have proposed to her, or accepted her proposal after having made arrangments with you. Whatever bond they share simply seems stronger than the bond you and he share.
If he wanted to be with you, he'd be with you. Simple as that. This is a matter of him keeping you waiting i nthe wings in case things with her don't work out. But thats not fair to you. He wants his cake and eat it too.
Also, another telling point is how you defined your relationship with him. You did not call it a loving relationship, or even a relationship. You stated you've been "messing around" for two years. Your best bet is tell him to do what makes him happy, but you're going to do the same. Then you actually go out there, and do it. Move on as best you can, and put him behind you. As hard as it might be, you have to get to a point where he isn't in your thoughts. You know what they say, repalce one addiction with another. Find someone else who can be equally important, or something which distracts you from thinking of him, and when the time is right, you can simply find the next "Mr. Right."
2007-01-23 15:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we do teach people how to treat us, u shouldn't allow him to dump on u like this, and than come into your life whenever it's convenient. need to kick him to the curb, and not waste anymore time being in love with someone who is marrying someone else when he already planned a wedding date with u. he intends to come back anytime he pleases, without the commitment u want. he couldn't love u like u do him, so end it and move on even if u hurt, u will thank yourself one day for doing so.
2007-01-24 02:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to be hard but just let him go. You shouldn't have to compete for a man. He is with somebody else now. Just move on. A man who really loves you would NEVER put you in this situation. I hope you find your strength. Good luck!
2007-01-23 15:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahh, the setup of the married man, his wife, and a mistress.
Guess who you are in this "love triangle?"
There are no winners in this. If you want your AND HER heart broken, stay on the sidelines. If you don't, get away and plan to start over.
2007-01-23 15:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loved you, he wouldnt be getting married to someone else. I know its hard to just walk away but how would you feel if you were the one he was marrying and the other one he was messing with, it would bother you too. Consider yourself lucky that hes getting married to someone else cause if it was you then you would be in trouble in that marriage, casuse he would mess around on your too. KICK HIM TO THE CURB and let her deal with his infidelities.
2007-01-23 15:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sparky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're the mistress, not the wife. If you really love him, let him be happy with his wife. They'll divorce soon, I'm sure, considering he's cheated on her for who knows how long. I hate to tell you but he doesn't love you and he's just keeping you around to use you, open your eyes. You're the backup.
2007-01-23 15:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by Athena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you kick him in the gonads and congratulate him and wish him luck and happiness, then you go somewhere and cry for a while into a bottle while trying to sing sad song, nothing much realy else you can do, unless you want to be really vindictive and sabotage his wedding and marriage
2007-01-23 15:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him the ultimatium, if he gets married your gone forever. Your not a doormat to be used until he gets married to his ex. He sounds like a sleeze ball and u are better than that.
2007-01-23 15:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by Angelina A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you, he wouldn't be getting married to someone else. You are fool for continuing to see him when you know he's going to marry someone else.
2007-01-23 15:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back away, slowly, slowly, oh!.. out of the picture. When the coast is clear, run! Date another man. Please. Did you sign up for a lifetime of heartbreak or WHAT?! NO? Then stop the madness.
2007-01-23 15:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋