i met a man on line & he seemed perfect,said he loved me &asked me to marry him i said yes & things changed y? we are in different time zones but he was so passionate & caring. he stll spouts words of love but it feels different to me now i thnk e is hiding something. does this seem strang or natural for a long distanc relationship weare to be married in June of this year which will make our relationship 6 months old any suggestions or advice?im a divorced mother of three two are young girls the other a teenage boy.
2007-01-23 15:12:50 · 18 answers · asked by Lady T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you ever met him in person? If not, I'd wait until you've spent a good deal of time with him in real life before making any life-altering decisions or moves. It's fun to fantasize, but the problem with internet relationships are, it's so easy for a person to be whomever they want to be.
In person, it's more difficult to keep up a facade, and his true colors will quickly be revealed. If you still have doubts, you might want to consider having a background check done, or hiring a private detective. It might seem like a bit much, but better safe than sorry. There could be plenty of things that he's neglected to tell you about himself. Wives/girlfriends, children, a criminal history, mental illness... You'll save yourself a lot of heartache in the long run if you make well thought out, rational decisions.
2007-01-23 15:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until you know him better. Move into his time zone and spend some time with him on his turf or at least a vacation. Your children are more important than any man and how can you know in six months in a long distance relationship if he's the perfect addition to your family?
Also if you think he's acting funny? That because he is! Always trust your gut.
2007-01-23 15:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to scare you but my advice would be to leave him alone. Something about him doesn't seem right. I'm a bit worried about your situation. A 6 month relationship is defiantly not enough time to get to know someone. It would best if you got to know him more....Please don't get involved until you have no doubt's. I am currently in a long distant relationship. I also met him on-line. Tomorrow will be our one year anniversary. I've know him for four years. I don't want you to think I'm a cloud on your sunny day but i just want you to be safe...Good luck!!
2007-01-23 15:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by blufiah_tam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What people seem to be and who they truly are is or can be two different things. Listen to your gut instinct. Something is not right and you know it. You just don't know what. I would not marry someone I never met. Nor that I didn't know. Especially with my children. When you figure out what is not right it could be too late. For your children and you. Take care.
2007-01-23 15:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would concentrate on meeting someone in person especially w/kids. Why waste your emotions on someone you haven't even met yet? I think you deserve much more than this especially if you sense he's "hiding something". I know the email exchanges can be pretty exciting though. But it is so much better on all levels to just get to know someone in person, so you can get the real deal.
2007-01-23 15:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said: “weare to be married in June of this year which will make our relationship 6 months old” so at this point you’ve known him what…a month? Have you even met him?
2007-01-23 15:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would watch my back if i were u. he may seem perfect online, but when u actually meet him in person, he could be just the opposite. U shouldnt say ur gonna marry him...u need to spend time with him in person and get to actually really know him before u marry him. you could be endangering your kids. U could be getting a bad feeling about him because your instincts r trying to tell u something. listen to your heart and trust your instincts.
2007-01-23 15:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slam on the brakes NOW!!!! I think I may have been dealing with the same person!!! He professed his love for me, we got engaged 2 months after meeting, I had to do all the work of relocating and selling everything, but luckily I came to my senses and it's now over. 6 months isn't long enough, and I am beginning to wonder if long distant relationships can work. Just please take your time, you have children, put them first.
2007-01-23 15:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is VERY weird. You haven't even met the guy. And you just "met" this guy online and he asked to marry you? I think he's some 12 year old with raging hormones or something. Beware.
2007-01-23 15:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have u ever met him?
is it possible u r getting cold feet and think he has changed when in reality u have. PLEASE make sure this guy is legit and real and not a player luring u for financial support.. get a background check on him..The net makes everything beautiful and it is not as beautiful in real life...
i speak from experience.
2007-01-23 15:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by lasher_8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋